‘Tis better to give than receive.
When it comes to criticism, it’s certainly easier to give than to receive. But I don’t think it’s always better.
Truth is, we all need correction, feedback and criticism. I don’t usually use the phrase “constructive criticism.” I think all criticism should be constructive. Otherwise, it’s not really criticism. It’s just being critical. They are not the same thing.
I’m often asked for my opinion (criticism). I work hard to put a few things up front in each case:
1. What’s the purpose here? What are we trying to accomplish?
2. Here are my biases, up front.
3. I’m not going to make the decision for you because that’s not my place.
4. Let’s consider worse-case scenarios. What’s the worst thing that can happen?
Intention is a major component of effective criticism. Do you care enough to help the person you are criticizing…or are you just being critical? Does the person helping you with criticism care about you improving…or they just being critical? Our motive behind criticism is fundamental to our ability to give it and to take it.
And today’s show ends with a discussion about the biggest question of all.
Who are you to tell me?
The context of our relationship matters. The wrong person can deliver the right message, in exactly the appropriate way…and it’ll be lost.
What do you think? What have you found that works in giving or accepting effective criticism?
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