May 26, 2012 – Saturday’s Smile
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Nothing I’ve ever done has consumed me like coaching hockey. Nothing even comes close.
When I began I read everything I could get my hands on. I connected with people from any English speaking country who could teach me anything. I was a sponge…driven to learn more so I could help my teams.
I’d long been a student and fan of the game, but I never played. Regularly I’d joke with players that I simply had a hockey Rolodex that would trump anybody they knew. Bulletin boards, forums and every obscure hockey website were regularly visited by me as I made notes and obsessed with things I could pass on to my players.
The roller hockey scene of 20 years ago hit. Warm weather locations like Texas, California and Florida were embracing the sport with grand enthusiasm. I dove headlong into that area of hockey at the time because it was virgin territory and the old head ice hockey guys had a strong prejudice against it. I didn’t.
When USA Hockey in Colorado Springs realized the inline version of the game was an opportunity to expose more young players to a great game – they began to bring order and organization to the sport. The Executive Director at the time recruited me to become a Regional Director, a completely volunteer position that I happily accepted because coaching was that important to me.
Over time I coached countless kids, from 6 year olds to college guys.* And I loved every minute of it, even dealing with obnoxious, idiotic parents. Because I had a bigger purpose. A more important compelling reason. I wanted to impart a little bit of knowledge, a little bit of wisdom and a whole lot of life lessons to the players.
My aim was high. To be memorable by helping them achieve more than they might be able to without my help.
I was fully devoted to them, and to the sport.
Coaching hockey has, for years, been the barometer for me whenever I’m looking at my own passions and trying to answer today’s question. Maybe there’s something in your life that serves you like that. I’d love to report that it has helped me clarify things, but it hasn’t. Some days it only serves to confuse me further. And for a guy like me, confusion comes easily so I don’t need any more help in that department.
Look deeply into your life. Look into your past. Carefully consider today’s question. There are three more coming behind it. My hope is that we can work through these questions and learn more about ourselves. Along the way perhaps we can figure out some ways to earn more money because money is the fuel that helps us maintain our passions, and our causes. We need money to support the causes we care most about.
Question 1: What Do You Care Most About?
* Note: The photo was taken of me coaching the roller team of the University of Texas at Arlington during a college national championship tournament. I coached this UTA team for four years. They were, deservedly, the last team I ever coached.
Mentioned in today’s show:
• The 100-Mile Walk: A Father And Son On A Quest To Find The Essence Of Leadership by Sander A. Flaum & Jonathon A. Flaum
Leadership is not a one-way street.
People need leadership. That doesn’t mean leaders are without their own needs.
Leaders need feedback, information, dialog and instruction. Nobody knows everything. Not even the most accomplished or capable leader.
Fathers have a great deal to learn. Sometimes from their own children.
CEO’s have a great deal to learn. Sometimes from low level, frontline employees (see Undercover Boss).
The compelling reason why I do what I do with these podcasts, videos and blog posts is summed up in a single phrase, “Passing it on.”
It doesn’t mean I’m an expert with nothing left to learn. My ability to teach, to instruct or pass it on is greatly enhanced by my ability to listen and learn. Lifelong learning improves lifelong teaching, and mentoring.
It’s the fabric of legacy!
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Over 20 years ago Jeffrey Gitomer would open a sales training seminar much like he does today. He’d ask a room full of salespeople, “Who is the most important person in the world?” In unison the room would answer, “The customer!”
Gitomer would then ask, “Let me put it another way. There are two people left on the planet – you and the customer. One of you must die. Who’s it gonna be?” Again, in unison the room would answer, “The customer!” Exactly.
Gitomer’s point was well made. We all think we’re the most important person in the world.
We know what our problems are, even though others may not have a clue.
Nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen.
We might be surprised at the trouble others have seen.
Mentioned in today’s show are two books (they’re both old):
• Quiet Desperation: The Truth About Successful Men by Jan Halper
• Anyway: The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent M. Keith
It’s a new week. Go make it a better week for somebody else. It’s the best way I know to make it a good week for yourself. Oh, and one more thing. Don’t tell anybody.
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Today’s show was prompted by the lead sentence on a story at the Dallas Stars’ Hockey Club website…
Talk to many highly-accomplished executives, and they will often point out that a key to their success comes from surrounding themselves with good people to consult and bounce ideas off of.
I’d like to crowdsource some information by asking you to leave me a comment here. Here are some of the things I’m hoping you’ll share:
• Do you surround yourself with good people?
• How do you find or determine who “good people” are?
• Do you talk with them regularly, or only when you feel you need their specific expertise?
• What suggestions do you have for the rest of us?
Thanks in advance for sharing.