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Leadership- Should You Be A Lone Wolf Or Part Of A Pack? - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 292

292 Leadership: Should You Be A Lone Wolf Or Part Of A Pack?

Leadership- Should You Be A Lone Wolf Or Part Of A Pack? - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 292

Leaders, like followers, come in a variety of personalities, styles, philosophies, tendencies, experiences and aptitudes. Too many variables to lump people into simple, easy categories.

People grow, adapt and change, too. I’m not quite the same leader I am today as I was a few decades ago. Truth is, I’ve made some significant changes (improvements) in the last 5 years. In some respects, I don’t think I resemble the leader I once was. It’s called growth and learning! Professionally, it’s what I work diligently to help other leaders experience, too.

It’s not always the most comfortable process. Rarely does growth or improvement happen without stress. You can either lean into it or run away from it. Flee or fight instincts often overrule our sensibilities. A true leader learns to behave intentionally and run toward the fear where growth is found. Cowards feel trapped, acting like they’re in a mine field. Afraid to move a single step in any direction, they freeze. Of course, the problem is…you can’t live in a mine field. Remain stationary and you die. Make a move and it might kill you, but you might find your way out. There’s no avoiding risk if you’re chasing reward.

Leadership is a reward. It’s for the courageous and brave, not the fearless. Every leader I’ve ever known admitted being afraid of something. Often times, many things. Fear doesn’t define leadership, but our response to fear often does.

Enter hubris. It’s too common to find leaders who are fearful of showing fear. Vulnerability isn’t a quality they think belongs on any list of leadership. Foolish. Wrong-headed.

Some leaders let fear drive them into a lonely corner feeling they must fight the fight alone. Survival of the fittest and all that. “Never let ’em see you sweat.” “Show no signs of weakness.” All that other bravado that often drives leaders. Especially the loneliest ones.

“Nobody understands what I’m going through anyway,” he says to me.

“How can you be so sure?” I ask.

“Because my problems are unique to our organization,” he says confidently.

My work consists primarily of asking questions. It’s how clarity happens. Asking and answering questions foster clear thinking and bring things into sharper focus. At least that’s the goal.

So I ask, “Give me one example of a problem you’ve got that you think nobody else has.”

He starts to think. And think some more. Then he summons up the courage to mention an industry specific issue, but quickly realizes it’s just details. The jest of the issue isn’t uncommon and he knows it.

Slowly a smile begins to show through and he meekly admits that he doubts he’s alone. “Then why are you trying to go it alone?” I ask.

That sparks the conversation I’ve been wanting to have with him. He’s a CEO with very capable COO. For reasons I don’t fully understand, he doesn’t have a relationship with the COO that seems healthy to me. I mean he trusts his COO. The man is very capable, even strong. They get along just fine. There’s no apparent trust issues or personality conflicts. It’s communication. The CEO doesn’t freely share information with the COO.

And it’s not out of any apparent sense of hoarding information. At first I suspected it was simply the CEO’s “hold your cards close to your vest” style. But it’s more than that. My intuition has been prompting me to dig deeper for months now. I’ve resisted digging in lieu of closer observation to see what behavior shows me. Sure enough, it’s more than obvious that the COO is frustrated at a professional life relegated to trying to figure out what his boss is thinking, feeling or wanting. The CEO senses the frustration, but figures it’s just how things roll.

As I work with both men I know how valuable candid conversations between the two men can put them into a brand new, higher orbit of effectiveness. Mostly, I’m feeling a bit sad for the CEO who is bent on “going it alone” because it’s just how he thinks things ought to be. I’m also sad for the COO, a bit younger than the CEO, because he’s being robbed of the opportunity to grow and learn at the hands of a man he deeply respects. Both men are losing out.

Sometimes The Lone Wolf Isn’t Alone Because He Wants To Be

Fast forward past numerous conversations and what seem like thousands of questions. The CEO fears putting a burden on his COO that is undeserved. “He’s not paid or tasked to worry at my level,” he divulges one day.

“So that’s why you don’t let him into your world as closely as you could?” I ask. “Sure, of course. The buck doesn’t stop with him. It’s stops with ME,” he says – as though he’s stating an unarguable fact.

What ensues is a discussion about how people grow, especially our children. The CEO, a father, can relate. The kids are grown now. I ask him if the things he shared with his kids changed as they grew older. Of course it did. As they grew up and matured, he and his wife were able to share more and more with their kids. With their experience and maturity, the kids were not only capable of handling more, but they craved it. It deepened their relationship. He easily recognized it when the context was his own children.

I then morphed the conversation to the professional “children” in his life – those people he loved and served – and who wanted to serve him. He was their leader. The place had high regard for his professional prowess. The whole organization reeked with desire to please him. He’d started this business. The founding father was viewed with the regard he deserved. I thought he deserved to not fly alone when he had people, especially one very close executive, fully capable (and desirous) of being a confidant.

I sat there telling stories of growth, improvement, sharing confidences and having a person with whom he could “shell it all down.” Over time it was apparent he had a yearning for it, but he had been a lone wolf for a long time. Habitual loneliness isn’t so easy to abandon. Sometimes investments are difficult. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

The CEO didn’t necessarily want to be a lone wolf. He just assumed that he had to be. That it was unfair to go any other way.

Smart people can make bad assumptions. They can also figure it out and alter their course.

A CEO with a COO who is his right hand, and confidant is a very different man than a guy living in a cave fearful of sharing his issues and worries fully. Proof that old maxim is right, fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Rip it down, tear it up and mostly our fears are without foundation. When the two men sat down for a candid conversation – far more candid than any they had ever had – it’s powerful. It’s not about business issues. It’s not about the quarterly performance. It’s about their feelings and inner desires to be better men, better leaders and together – to build a stronger organization.

I warn them that they may both feel regret over what’s been lost, but I challenge them instead to rejoice in what’s found. These are the moments I live for. Major breakthroughs.

Sometimes The Lone Wolf Is Alone Because He Wants To Be

We’re all wired a certain way. Thankfully, the CEO was wired to accept the challenge to help spur on his own growth, and the growth of his COO. Together, they sparked a pretty major growth in their company. The culture shifted from practicing communication that was often ambiguous and vague to being candid, open and forthright. You could feel it on your skin like a warm blanket on a cold night. It was comfortable. Nice.

Many stories don’t have happy endings though. Sometimes a lone wolf is alone refusing to go it any other way. They want to be alone.

I no longer care why. I once did. I’d anguish about why a person would be so bent. Through the years I’ve found it foolish on my part to try to connect those dots. For a lifelong dot connector it’s vexing, but even a hard head like me learns to cry “Uncle” when I’m beaten.

Arrogance. Hubris. Ignorance. Stupidity. It really doesn’t matter why. I just learned to make a distinction between those who want to and those who simply don’t know how to do it any other way. At first glance it can tough to tell, but hang with it long enough, ask enough questions and pay close attention long enough — and it becomes pretty clear which it is. Is it desire? Or is it lack of know-how?

Sometimes I still try to convert the willful lone wolf. Mostly I focus on the value lost. Their own value. Yes, I appeal to their selfishness, working to convince them of what they’re costing themselves. Then, I shift it to what they’re robbing their own team of – the chance for personal and professional growth and development.

Perhaps if I were better I’d win more of those battles than not, but I’m not in control of it. I can only present people with the value proposition and the risk proposal. Each of us are free to roll the way we want. I honor that. I try to respect it, but that’s infinitely harder. What I do respect is our ability to make our own choices.

Growing Or Dying?

Maybe if we look at animals in the wild we can gain some clues about this whole lone wolf thing.

Young animals need protection. They also need to learn the skills necessary to fend for themselves. The herd, pack or flock needs to perpetuate itself. That means the young, inexperienced members need to grow, develop and eventually reproduce. Even the most dominate leader of the pack needs the pack. Without them, he can’t survive long.

When a beast grows old, feeble or is injured – then the drag on the group is obvious. That’s when you see him wonder off alone. To die.

We may impose our human emotions on such a situation, but it’s easy to see the practical realities of it. The group can’t be put at risk. There comes a time to cut and run it alone. Survival isn’t possible. It’s just a matter of time. Go it alone and avoid risk or injury to the group, or be stubborn, remain with the group and put them all at risk.

In business, I think it depends on the same question…

Are you growing or dying?

If you’re dying, go it alone. Please. For the sake of others, reduce or eliminate the risks to others. But if you’re determined to grow, you’re crazy for going it alone. You may not make it to full maturity. Predators might kill you. You may fall into some trouble that you never saw coming. All because you were just too stubborn to be taught. Too stubborn to allow somebody else to show you a thing or two.

Just because you can go it alone doesn’t mean you should. We tend to think that because we’re able to drive a car, and because we’ve got our driver’s license — we can handle anything the road or traffic throw our way. Wrong! Inexperienced drivers die on the roads in America daily. Unaware of the dangers they think that because they can drive a car, that they’ll be able to handle anything that happens while driving. In too many cases it’s a fatal error.

Business owners, executives and leaders fall into the same trap. Sure, they have the ability to do as they please and go it alone. That doesn’t mean it’s wise. Fools go out of business all the time. Executives blow up their teams and their careers just as frequently.

It’s up to us to decide what we want to do: grow or die?

Not All Groups Are Created Equally

The group matters. Who you listen to matters. Your decisions matter. Your judgments and choices matter.

It’s important to know where people are coming from and to whom they’re beholden. Leaders often tell me about their “trusted advisors.” Sometimes I’m shocked at how much trust and confidence people put in others who clearly have a vested interest in one outcome or decision versus another one. It may not be so easy to see when it’s YOU, being the leader who is leaning on a close friend, or some service professional, or an employee.

I’m not saying trusted advisors can’t be trusted. I’m saying we all need to be realistic about the level of trust we put into somebody based on their own interests. There’s nothing wrong with trusting people. I rather think leaders should likely be more trusting, not less. However, we have to acknowledge that each of us have a vested interest in an outcome the closer we are to the outcome. In other words, when a CEO is considering an important decision she may summons her inner circle for feedback. She should. She should also remember that these people work for her and they want to please her. They have jobs and duties to protect. They may not be as forthcoming in giving an honest counter position to a proposal she offers because of that.

Likewise with a service professional like an attorney, accountant or insurance person. These people want to continue to our provider of choice. They’re going to do everything in their power to keep us happy.

It has nothing to do with honesty or integrity. It’s just how things go. Decisions and choices are often jaded by personal interests. The US Government is the best illustration I can offer you. Special interest lobbyists drive the system. I scratch your back, you scratch mine. It doesn’t often produce the very best outcome because the drivers behind the decisions aren’t often made from a strong position of clarity. There are biases built in all throughout the system.

That means it’s important for leaders to surround themselves with people who can serve them without any penalties. People who care enough about the leader — people who have the skills and experience to help — people willing to offer tough questions — and perhaps even tougher suggestions — all because they want the leader to grow, excel and improve.

Very few leaders have such a group. Most have never experienced such a group and may tend to believe that such groups aren’t even possible. Through the years I’ve heard a number of top executives lament that life at the top is just what it is. Of all the problems they face, this seems to be the one problem for which they think there is no solution. It’s a myth.

Let’s Answer The Question

The answer to the question is simple if you’re dying. Go it alone. Please don’t cause the death of others. Let the rest get out alive if possible.

If you’re growing, then you have no choice, but to join yourself and align yourself to others who can serve you, and who can be served by you. That includes an inner circle. Maybe it’s a right-hand man, like the CEO and the COO. Share the burden of leadership with others who are part of your executive team. Like the youngest members of the pack, they can best learn when you’re willing to teach them. And they’ll serve you in return.

But you need more. You need people capable of knowing where you’re coming from. You need peers. That’s the biggest frustration often expressed by leaders. They think they have nobody with whom they can share because nobody in their life can relate to their situation. Mostly, they’re right. But not entirely.

Some have tried mastermind groups, but found them wanting. High performing leaders can find themselves in a group where their expertise is benefiting others, but they leave with a rather empty experience for their own issues. Sometimes groups are grossly out of sync where the disparity is so large members can’t quite relate to each other’s situation. Inevitably, the weakest members of such groups tend to establish a baseline of performance that just isn’t high enough for the people who really want to soar much, much higher.

We don’t need a group that will weigh us down. We need a group that will lift us up. We need a group that will encourage us to stretch, push and strive to grow and improve.

 

Here’s the sad reality — very few leaders have experienced a truly helpful group with no axe to grind and no dog in the hunt other than to help, encourage and serve. Yet we’ve likely experienced a taste of it with our family or some other small group. People who surround us and tell us, “We’ll help you. You can get through this. We understand what you’re going through and we’re here for you.” Nothing in return other than knowing they can help, and knowing that when they need help, you’ll do the same for them.

So you can decide for yourself how you’ll go. Clearly, I’m hoping you’ll decide to join a pack. Whether that pack is a small, intimate group or something else you think is high value, you decide. Just don’t go it alone.

Because you only go it alone when you’re ready to go off and die!

Randy

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Group Power: Clarity, Feedback & Accountability - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 291

291 Group Power: Clarity, Feedback & Accountability

Group Power: Clarity, Feedback & Accountability - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 291

That’s a photograph of my first grade class. An extremely bright group. 😉

Look at us. All bright, young and shiny. Solid potential all around. Nineteen kids. One teacher. That’s her at the back, Mrs. Arnold. And the Principal who appears to be wearing bunny ears thanks to that bunny on the bulletin board behind him. I don’t recall his name.

I was with this group on the day President Kennedy was assassinated. Mrs. Arnold was our leader on that dreadful day, a day we couldn’t quite fully comprehend. I’d been a seasoned, even grizzled kindergarten veteran, but that wasn’t the same as first grade. Kindergarten wasn’t nearly as organized, or profitable. I mean we took naps! Naps, I tell you. Hardly a productive group experience, at least for me. I didn’t gain much clarity, but I do recall getting a bit of feedback. Accountability was always in place ’cause we were kids. And it was the 1960’s when adults believed in teaching us discipline. Not like today where the kids rule. Yep, I think it was a better time and I’m thankful to have been born in an era where kids were safe, but expectations were higher. Come on. Just look at us here. Okay, forget that kid on the right in the front row. He looks like he could enjoy spiteful behavior, doesn’t he.

There’s power in a group, but it certainly depends on the group. Today’s show was sparked by a conversation I had some weeks ago with somebody about a group that I’m part of where accountability is pretty high. It’s a group where leadership isn’t bashful to serve the group. As we were talking I found myself reciting all the reasons why the group worked; why it performed at a fairly high level. That’s what I’d like to share with you today.

I want you to think about your own situations, your own opportunities with whatever groups you’re a member of — and whatever groups you may be looking to join or form in the future. I don’t claim to hold any profound wisdom about this topic, but I’ve got extensive experience working with and forming high performing groups. I know how powerful they are. And I know how addictive they can be for the members, too. So let’s dive in.

Why Does The Group Exist?

If there’s no common purpose, the group won’t be high performing. Kindergarten was a low performing group because we were just there doing time. Sort of like a fun kiddie prison. Okay, a half-day prison of sorts. With toys. And snacks. And naps.

Every member of the group must know, understand and believe in why they’re together. I’ve posed it as a “WHY” question, but others would say it’s PURPOSE. Same difference. It’s quite simply the reason for the group to exist.

Take something as simple as a coed recreational volleyball league. Players can be put together who never knew each other until their team was formed. The volleyball league is made up of teams of men and women who want to play volleyball. Let’s suppose this league has a rec division and a competitive division. The rec league is made up of people who just want to play according to the real rules of volleyball, but they’re more interested in having fun, getting some exercise and being on a team. The competitive division is more serious and the teams are more competitive, with each member having higher skill. That’s important because the teams – the groups – are comprised of mostly similar people desiring similar things.

Have you ever been on a team where you wanted to really compete, but others were mostly just interested in having fun? It’s frustrating. I’ve coached many teams in my life and there’s always trouble when some don’t want to take it as seriously as others, or when others want to take it too seriously when that’s not the purpose of the team. So, purpose is very important. And it’s important that every member of the team understand why we’re together and what we’re here for. I’ll include the necessity for high performing groups to also be of similar ability and skill. That likely deserves it’s own heading, but I’m including it here in this first category because you’re not likely going to ever be able to assemble or be part of a group where everybody is identical in skill, ability or experience. The key thing is to make sure the disparity is small. That is, A players want to play with A players. Even in the rec league that’s true. A players will be fine with some B players, too. But insert a C player or two and you’ll instantly make the A players annoyed and frustrated. C players need to step up to become B or A player if they want to be part of a high performing group. Otherwise, I don’t think they have a home.

Few things destroy the effectiveness of a group more than a disparity of purpose. Now this isn’t the same thing as – some are here for one thing and others are here for different things. The recreational volleyball players know why they’re on the same team. They don’t want to have their nose broken by a spike. They want to play legitimate volleyball where lifts and net violations are called (accountability), but they mostly want to compete in a less competitive stress-filled league. One wants to do it for exercise. Another wants to do it to improve in hopes of eventually moving up to the competitive league. Another is mainly there so he can play a sport with his wife. Each person may be getting something specific out of it – something they want and need – but they all know why they’re together as a rec team.

If just one player is a wannabe Olympian, then there’ll be trouble. He’ll be taking things far more seriously than the rest. At every lost point he’ll rant and holler at teammates. He’s out of context with the purpose of the group and he’ll negate any joy the rest of the team might otherwise have. It’s important that players get placed on the team that best fits the purpose of the individuals. A. To play purely for recreational purposes where winning isn’t nearly as important as just playing. B. To play as competitively as possible. Two different reasons for each group. Urgent that every roster be made up of players who know why they’re together.

This is the fragility of team chemistry. It’s where it starts. I’ve seen many personality conflicts erupt because team members don’t share the same purpose. In every high performing group I’ve ever been a part of, everybody knew precisely why we were together and what our purpose was. This includes “buy in,” that proverbial mental consent that joins people together to chase something in the same way.

How Committed Are We To Do This?

It’s one thing to know why we’re together, but that doesn’t mean everybody brings the energy necessary to get it done. High performing groups are committed — to a man and woman. Nobody is left behind on the Commitment Train. Everybody is on board.

Think of the times when you were part of a group that had high performance potential, but something went awry. It could have been any number of things that disrupted the performance of the group. I’ll almost guarantee you that among any other problems the group may have faced, this one was most certainly right at the top. Not everybody was willing to put in the work, make the sacrifices and commit themselves to getting it done.

Remember, we’ve already talked about A, B and C players. So at this point we’re assuming that the group is comprised of people who belong together. But I should inject something right here — a C player who is at that level due to inexperience or even a lack of talent can play nicely with the group if he’s fully committed, putting in the work and the group is seeing improvement and contribution. It’s context. High performing groups appreciate the hard working, lesser experienced person who know their place. They don’t appreciate the C player who seems convinced they’re an A player.

Likewise, the AAA player who won’t work hard, who feels entitled and special will destroy the group. No amount of talent will overcome the group’s expectation that everybody bring value. While every group can easily recognize the difference in each member, there’s an equality that is expected. There are minimum standards established by leadership or the group that everybody must meet. When those aren’t met, commitment is appropriately questioned and peace gets disturbed quickly.

Nothing can replace commitment. Talent won’t. Experience won’t. A title won’t.

Let’s talk a bit about motivation. We’ll define motivation as the energy we all bring with us to do the work. That’s different than inspiration. I may be able to inspire a person’s motivation, but I can’t give somebody energy they don’t have. It’s like a battery. The battery can have full energy, but if the connections are bad…nothing happens. The energy is there, but it needs direction. Connection. Inspiration might include some education to help a person connect or tap into their inner energy, but their “battery” level is something they’ve either got or they don’t.

This is important because high performing groups need everybody to consistently show up with the energy to do the work. You’ve seen this destroy a group. Somebody is always suffering some issue. Maybe they’re always running late, filled with excuses. Or they’re sick all the time. Or they’ve got drama in their life that they’re intent on sharing with the group. Everybody thinks they could bring higher value, but sooner than later the group learns to not rely on them because they lack consistently. Every questions their commitment – rightfully so. Who cares what potential good they might bring to the group? Potential doesn’t accomplish anything. The group will grow increasingly disgusted with them.

Every single member of the group must bring the energy and determination to contribute.

How Selfish Are We?

High performing groups won’t tolerate selfishness. Peace is disturbed by this one awful trait. Selfishness.

The group is what matters. Members know that they can only get what they need and want through the group. Let’s go back to our volleyball team. The person who wants to exercise weekly with his wife is getting something specific and different than the person who wants to improve so they can eventually play at the more competitive level. Yet neither can get what they want outside the context of the team. They need the team in order to get what they want.

Suppose they put their desires before the team. How is that going to work? It isn’t. It’ll wreck the team and their chances to have the team serve them. More importantly, it’ll rob each of them of the opportunity to serve the team! Everybody loses.

And it happens all the time. Team members can’t get their attention off themselves. They’re desperate to want what they want and they don’t care about anybody else. They behave as though the group is there to serve them and they have no responsibility to serve others. It’s the single most destructive behavior of any group – high performing or otherwise.

I’ve never seen a group perform at high levels consistently where there was no peace. I’m not talking about respectful conflict and debate. That can be quite profitable if members will behave appropriately, respectfully and with the intent of making the work better. It will be destructive if it’s self-centered, full of ego and lacking respect for the overall performance of the group. It’s borne of that “I’m gonna look good even if you guys all look bad” kind of philosophy. High performing groups can’t and won’t tolerate it.

Great groups check their ego at the door and refuse to let their own (or anybody else’s) interfere with the overriding reason for their existence together. Sometimes it means sacrifice. It means we submit to the group’s decisions and well-being. It means the idea we think is best may have to be tabled because the group desires something else. There’s a time to speak and a time to sit quietly. Our level of selfishness often determines which is appropriate.

Another part of this is our ability and willingness to serve others in the group. The less selfish we are the more we’re likely to gain. Suppose you’re on a volleyball team of 9 people. There are 6 people on the court at any one time. That means 3 people are sitting on the sideline, if everybody is there. The selfish player can think, “I should be out there. I’m better than him.” If he continues to think like that he’ll act that out eventually. But he could decide to cheer and encourage, staying upbeat and ready when he does go into the game, determined to be the very team mate possible. It’s an enormous difference in behavior sparked by how players think.

Consider how the team will behave toward those two different approaches of a player on the sidelines. If you’re on the court do you want to surrender your spot to the pouting, I’m-better-than-you teammate? Not likely. The high energy, cheering, encouraging teammate who is excited for those on the court…would you like to see him get some playing time (remember, he’s fully capable of playing at your level, that’s why he’s on your team)? Sure. Most of us will gladly share our time with a guy like that because he’s serving us. It’s more than an attitude. It’s behavior.

How Proud Are We?

Without exception, every high performing group I’ve been a part of, or the ones I’ve watched from the outside, have a pride in the group that is without question. They’re filled with pride to be part of the group. They’re proud of the accomplishments of the group. Proud of the growth and the opportunity.

There’s something exclusive about high performing groups. It’s special. And addictive.

It’s manifested in how much time people spend together. I’ve run organizations where people stood in the parking lot for long periods of time talking, brain-storming and telling stories. I’ve coached teams who did the same thing long after practice had ended. There’s a reluctance to part. There’s an attraction to stay together. It’s a bond that I’ve learned many people have never experienced. That’s sad to me because these are special times when we’re part of something that brings us such pride.

Pride can fuel greater commitment and discipline to make sure we’re earning our keep. It’s not an arrogant, I’m-better-than-you kind of pride. It’s a feeling of gratitude to be able to contribute to such a group, and to be part of it. We want to maintain our inclusion in such a group.

What About Clarity, Feedback And Accountability?

I think by now you can see how clarity happens. High performing groups are quite clear about their why or purpose. That drives their ability to be clear about how to get things done.

Feedback is valued and encouraged because without it clarity is lost. Without it, improvement is stopped dead.

Where there is no accountability, there is no high performance. It’s impossible. Expectations have to be established and met. When they’re not, what’s the repercussion? There isn’t one? Then the group isn’t high performing. It’s got nothing to do with whether a member is an A player or a B player. The stars on the team need higher accountability because they’re able to contribute more. Every member has to be expected – and required – to bring all they can to the benefit of the group. If the group tolerates your willingness to bring anything less, then why should I put forth my best?

Accountability isn’t a dirty word. It’s vital and craved by high performing people comprising a high performing group. The best people want high accountability. Slugs don’t. They resist it.

As I was talking about a specific high performing group with a friend recently all these components were part of the discussion, but accountability was a real focal point. Mostly, because it’s so rare. People talk about it, but few people do it, or experience it. I’m not talking about a calling on the carpet. I’m talking about real, legitimate positive accountability. I’m talking about maintaining a high expectation.

We’ve all experienced getting in trouble. That’s not what this is although it might include it when it’s deserved. Mostly, it’s manifested in not letting people off the hook for a less-than-you-can-do job. It’s not expecting the B player to perform at an A level. It’s expecting the best that we know the B player can deliver. It’s accepting nothing less for the good of the person, and the performance of the group. It’s a service thing. Not a punitive thing. That doesn’t mean it can’t involve some punitive measures if they’re required, but that’s not the purpose. The purpose of accountability is to elicit the very best of each member so the group together and soar as high as possible. It’s a teamwork thing.

If your end of the boat sinks, so does mine.

Each group member deserves to be held accountable. Otherwise, they become unfit for the group. How is that fair?

Everybody deserves to perform at their highest level. To allow otherwise is to lose confidence in each other, to lower our expectation for each other — and to be willing to put our group at risk. Again, that’s unfair to all concerned.

Let’s End With A Myth

Some people think that high performing groups just happen, or they don’t. They think it’s a serendipity thing that can’t be created or controlled. WRONG.

I’ve heard people, including sports team coaches, talk about team chemistry as being this ephemeral, fragile, hard to predict kind of thing. It doesn’t have to be. I don’t think it should be left to chance or happenstance. Still I often hear leaders hoping to capture it. They approach it like a search for a 4 leaf clover. The odds aren’t great, but it could happen. Such leaders aren’t prepared to lead a high performing group in my opinion. They’re not strategic or intentional enough to deserve to lead such a group. And a high performing group deserves better leadership than that.

The world is full of examples of leaders or coaches unable to assemble a winning team. Chip Kelly has been a colossal failure in Philadelphia even though he’s been empowered to pretty much have things his way. I’m not qualified to second guess NFL professionals, but it’s easy for anybody to see that what coach Kelly is doing and has done, isn’t working. Fact is, it’s not working spectacularly! On the flip side look at the Carolina Panthers of the NFL. Last season was a lackluster affair. This year, they’re leading the league. Watch them play and you see they’ve got something special. I don’t know, but I’m willing to give credit to their leadership for helping make that high performing group come together.

If you’re a leader, put in the work to assemble the best group possible. Be devoted to making sure these ingredients are in place. Don’t short cut it. Don’t accept mediocre or excuses. Make it happen. People are craving such groups. They want to be part of it and they won’t want to let it down, or be ejected from it. It’s why in too many cases the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. Top performing people who aren’t yet part of such a group long to be part of one. They’ll line up to be part of yours. Case in point, the top college football programs continue to be the top programs year in and year out because the best high school football players want to be part of a winning program. Recruiting is easier when you’re leading a high performing group. It’s also a whole lot more fun.

Randy

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The Power Of Asking Better Questions - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 290

290 The Power Of Asking Better Questions

The Power Of Asking Better Questions - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 290

Spend enough time in sales and you’ll soon realize the power of questions. They serve to help you find out if you’re a suitable solution for a prospect. They also help you serve clients better.

One of the first things I learned was how powerful questions are to learn more. Namely, about the people I was attempting to serve. A couple walks into the stereo shop where I was working as a high school kid. I was naturally curious about what they were looking for, why they might be looking for it and what kind of music they most wanted to play. First, I remember being curious about who is really doing the shopping here. Is it her? Is it him? Is he helping her, or vice versa? Only one way to find out. Ask.

I was the naive sales guy willing to ask what others thought might be the stupid question. For me, it was less naiveté and more curiosity. There was also the practical element of it all. I needed to know so I could better serve them. I wanted happy customers. The road to happiness isn’t paved with good intentions or anything other than finding out what must be done, then doing what must be done.

In this particular case she was looking for her first real stereo system – not one of those all-in-one affairs that was the starter system for many of us. She wanted to have a really good, albeit not too expensive system. His job was to make sure she didn’t get scammed. I figured as much.

I didn’t ask the usual questions though. He remarked about that. Others wanted to know, “How much do you want to spend?” I never went there even I knew it was a perfectly logical question. The reason I didn’t go there was because it just didn’t feel right to me. It felt like I was just like everybody else and my big driver then (as now) is that I’m not like everybody else. That’s right. I’m better!

If you’re going to be better than everybody else, then stop doing what everybody else is doing. Ask better questions. Prove you’re different. Better!

I asked her what I asked lots of shoppers during those times in hi-fi stores. “What’s your favorite record right now?”

We’re in the mid-1970’s. I don’t remember what her answer was, but it could have been anything from Pink Floyd’s Dark Side of the Moon to ZZ Top’s Tres Hombres to some Earth, Wind and Fire funk. Who can remember? Not me.

I do remember the question taking her – and her boyfriend back. They came in for stereo gear. We talked music. I didn’t think it odd at all. Why did we want good stereo gear? That’s right. To play our favorite records. Yes, kids. It was the days of vinyl, turntables and phono cartridges.

Ballard StreetThe boyfriend observed that my question wasn’t the first question they’d been asked elsewhere. “Don’t you want to know how much we want to spend?” he asked.

“Not really,” I said. “I figure you guys will spend whatever you want. I don’t have much control of that. I just want to make sure you know what’s available so you can make the best decision.”

Oh, I had him on his heels now. Armed with specs he may have stayed up all night memorizing so as not to be taken advantage of, and so he might appear the knight in shining armor to his sweetheart, a teenage kid stood in front of him armed with nothing but my love of music, my knowledge of the gear and my desire to find out, “What’s your favorite record right now?”

Oh, I asked many more questions about her record collection including what her all-time favorite record was. Her favorite band. The last concert she went to. I knew she hated disco – beginning to be a thing about that time. I was happy about that because I couldn’t stand disco. She had roommates in college and didn’t want anything too big. Or too loud, except when they had parties. On and on this went as I put record after record on a turntable – the records she most loved, of course. Discovered only because I asked.

And I simply walked them through what an expensive system involved, all the while telling them, “I know you’re likely not looking to spend this much, but let’s talk about why these expensive systems cost what they do. That way I can show you what you give up as we walk down toward systems that may be more what you had in mind.”

It was a strategy I used my entire career in consumer electronics – up until the time I walked away from that industry in 2009 (well, I stopped even consulting in that business by 2011). Old habits are hard to break. When you’ve spent a lifetime in an industry it can be tough to walk away, but I did. I had always heard about “step up” selling, but I never did it. Step up selling is when you attempt to step people up a price point, to a higher level where presumably you can make more profit. There’s little to no profit in the low end of any market. Step customers up to a higher price point and you tend to encounter higher profit margins. It seems logical. I just never did it because again, it sounded like everybody else and my motto was to zig when everybody else was zagging. Besides, it felt much better to teach people about the higher end stuff and most admitted nobody ever took the time to do that. I did. But we both know I’m special. 😉

The boyfriend was disarmed right away because he knew I was no threat to him, or his girlfriend – or their budget. I didn’t even know or care what their budget was. I knew it really didn’t matter. The only thing that mattered was that I have a clear understanding of what she (they) wanted so they could make the best, most informed decision possible and have the system that fit her needs and desires. These things take time. The grand thing about all this for me, at the time, was that we could do it while listening to music. It just doesn’t get much better than that for me. I still miss the hi-fi business. 🙁

I don’t remember how expensive the most expensive system was that we first looked at, but I briefly went over a few key reasons why expensive systems were expensive. Why hi-end turntables performed much better than low-end ones…and why she’d be better off spending more money on the phono cartridge where most people skimped on that and ruined any hope they had to get a great sound. She was learning and my questions demonstrated one key element that good questions always do…

I cared about her.

My competitors hadn’t asked her these questions. They’d gone straight into pitch mode, trying their best to sell her whatever they could. I gave her time, attention and was genuinely interested to know what she most wanted in a hi-fi system. That was over 40 years ago and I’m still the same guy. I’m no longer selling stereo gear (sometimes I wish I were), but I’m still selling, serving people and trying to do good. Working hard to make a positive difference.

You Can Make The Biggest Difference When You Take The Time To Find Out More

I’m typically an impatient man prone to just get on with it. But in the rush to make a sale, I’m like a camel. I can go for long periods of time waiting as I build the relationship, finding out all I can, teaching as much as possible along the way. I know I’ve got my hang up’s. We all do. Maybe for me it’s the desire to appear genuine, knowledgable. I’ve never been too bothered about not being the smartest man in the room. I’ve long joked that even when I’m alone I’m not the smartest guy in the room. But I’m almost always prepared. It doesn’t mean I’m ready, but it means mostly I’m ready enough.

The other day I ran across this little graphic with a quote by Hugh Laurie, the actor who played Dr. House on TV.

The Power Of Asking Better Questions - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 290

Pretty good, huh? I agree with Hugh. Now is as good a time as any. I just always figured it was up to me to put myself in the best position to make now be as right as possible. And with that, you’d think I might over prepare, but not so much. Perfectionism is not my problem. My willingness to accept imperfection is pretty high, but when you live behind my eyes — that’s just how you have to roll.

You’ve heard the famous quote.

“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”  Theodore Roosevelt

It’s true. Conversely, I can tell how little you care by how little homework you did, or you little you care to find out what I think, or how I feel. Tell me, don’t ask. And I’ll confirm the shallowness of your concern for me. Ask me, and take the time to really listen. And I’ll know you likely care. Keep doing it and I’ll know how much you care.

Speed dating just gets to a faster no I suspect for those who participate. Speed selling does the same thing.

So I hope I’ve shown you that questions can make you stand out, stand apart from the crowd. They display your genuine care to learn more about the people you’re attempting to serve (those people who may buy something from you). They also serve to give you insight and information that help you make customers happy. Good salespeople are good servants. They don’t want returns, refunds or buyer’s remorse. Ever!

Questions are so powerful they deserve more time than we give them. And more creativity, too.

During my years running retail companies I was fanatically against hearing anybody in stores say, “Can I help you?” It screams, “I’m a salesperson intent on selling you something.” Instead, I taught sales staffs to simply welcome shoppers with a simple, “Good morning” or “Good afternoon” or “Good evening” followed by “Welcome to (insert the same of the store).” Then just shut up, but be attentive.

Inevitably the shopper would ask the first question. It might be asking where something was located. Or something else, but the question they asked would be the ice-breaker where our staff members could begin to build the relationship by asking questions designed to help serve the shopper. The intent behind the questions is important.

They must be designed to find out more in ways that demonstrate you want the person to be armed to make the best decision they can make. All the while arming you with the information you need so you don’t waste their time, or get it wrong.

My college couple shopping for a small starter hi-fi system may have been willing to spend the money for a system that would play twice as loud as she’d ever play it, but it would have been the wrong system for her. How would that have helped me serve her better? How would that have given her anything good to say about me, or the store I represented? I wanted her to tell all her friends about me. I wanted her parties to be successful and for my name to be dropped as the guy who sold her that killer system everybody was enjoying. Getting it wrong would have negated all those things.

Getting it right demands that you ask the right questions at the right time. And today, I’m challenging you to formulate better questions. Get outside the space you operate in. Your industry – whatever industry it may be – it overrun with “me, too” copycat-itis. Every industry is. We find somebody succeeding at something and instantly put it into practice never fully even knowing why it may work for them. Sales gurus peddle scripts guaranteed to bring in more sales. “We’ve tried this script on over 10,000 calls and we know it works.” Well, maybe so, but if you hop down that road copying it, sounding like you’re reading a script I guarantee failure. Besides, if you don’t take the time to understand the value behind it, you can’t own it. And if you can’t own it, then neither will your prospect.

It’s not about scripts. My admonition about store greetings was a script of sorts. How we answered the phone was, too. But it was natural. It was easy. It was straight-forward, friendly and simple. Too many times we get wrapped up in contrivances that we think will “make” people buy from us. Listen, you’re not going to make anybody do anything they don’t want to. You may as well quit trying because it’s a waste of time and energy. Besides that, it’s wrong-headed.

Instead, spend your time crafting questions that will actually help you help your prospective clients. Show them how much you care about serving them well…and getting it right. Do everything in your power to make them feel and understand how motivated you are to “get it right” for them.

The crazy bottom line to all this is stupidly simple: care more. 

Care enough to prepare. Care enough to learn. Care enough to teach. Care enough to share.

Care enough to ask.
Randy
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What's Your Leadership In A Sentence? - Higher Human Performance Podcast Episode 287

287 What’s Your Leadership In A Sentence?

What's Your Leadership In A Sentence? - Higher Human Performance Podcast Episode 287

During a sales training session one day back in the 1980’s I uttered a sentence that I hadn’t prepared. It just popped into my mind after a sales person wanted to know what he could do to better qualify prospects. The conversation turned to the challenges of not only qualifying, but delivering happiness. That’s when I finally said something I had long believed and practiced, but I hadn’t yet crystalized it into a single sentence.

The quality of your questions determines the quality of your business.

I went on to explain why.

When we’re trying to best serve a prospect, questions help the prospect distill what he really wants or needs. When he shares that with us, we’re better armed to provide the best solutions.

When we’re trying to deliver happiness to a customer, questions help us avoid pitfalls and unknowns that would foil our efforts.

Maybe most important, when we’re asking great questions of our prospects we’re learning more about them and that shows we care enough to get it right. We’re earning their trust. The shocking thing is, we’re also benefiting from being unique because our competitors aren’t likely asking these questions. They’re just trudging forward into full-blown sales mode. By asking great questions we’re morphing away from salesmanship toward high value service.

A few years ago during a session where I was working with some young men about public speaking I issued this challenge.

When you’re done, the audience should be able to tell somebody what you said in one clear sentence.

If people can’t restate what you said in a single sentence, then you neglected to be clear enough. My advice was simple. When you’re constructing your speech or presentation, have one clear sentence that sums up your speech. Then stick to it. When you’re finished crafting your speech, review it and see if you can still use that one clear sentence you used at the beginning.

Howard K. SmithWhen I was in journalism school Howard K. Smith was a national broadcaster with ABC News. I was at LSU, but it had nothing to do with the fact that Mr. Smith was from Ferriday, Louisiana. At the time, I’m not sure I knew that. What I did know is that he was a talented broadcaster with a keen grasp of language, especially the English language. He and Edwin Newman were among my favorite news broadcasters (although I admit there were many good ones back then).

One day I came across an article or something that said Howard K. Smith required his young children to sit down every day and write one clear sentence. He wanted his kids to learn to distill a thought into one clear sentence. I thought it was brilliant. Simple, but brilliant. I was still a teenager when I read it. That illustrates how spectacular it was because if a 17-year-old version of me could be dazzled by Mr. Smith’s homework assignment for his kids, then it was noteworthy. Now, over 40 years later it seems even more brilliant. I think more parents should do it.

Simple. Straight-forward. Concise.

These are powerful concepts, but even more powerful practices. In a world where people can be determined to sound smart by making things overly complex, the most powerful ideas are the ones most simply stated.

A tomb now suffices him for whom the world was not enough.   -Alexander The Great’s tombstone epitaph

Many of us want to do a lot of different things. We chase all the squirrels of achievement that strike our fancy. And it’s this same principle at work – our inability to see the power in simplicity.

So let’s aim our attention toward our leadership. If you’re the top leader – the CEO – of an organization, all eyes and ears are on you. When that’s an idea you want to embrace you love it. When it’s not, you tend to forget it’s how life is really happening. One morning you enter the office preoccupied by something that has nothing to do with work, but the entire office notices it. You don’t. You just think it’s all happening in your head, completely unaware that it’s impacted your demeanor, your tone of voice, your body language and your facial expressions. In your head, this morning is just like most other mornings. Nothing noticeably different for the troops. This goes on all morning long and by noon the place is overrun with rumors that something is afoot. And it’s not good. Speculation is running rampant because today you didn’t show up like you should have.

It happens. Well, the rumors don’t always happen, but we often show up differently than we think we do. Quite often because we neglect to pay close enough attention to how we’re impacting others. It’s especially true when we’re the leader. All you have to do is think about the word. Leader. Leaders lead. Others follow. That means leaders have to show up to lead.

That’s important because in my working with CEO’s and top leaders I’ve often found that some days the leader wants people to focus on him or her, then other days, they can become frustrated, even angry, that people are “too focused” on them. If you’re the CEO you have to show up for your people every single day. And that’s a daunting task, with awesome responsibility. It’s not for everybody, but for those who take it on – it’s a vital role every organization needs. A great leader serves the organization – and the people in it – in ways nobody else can.

So think about a single sentence that might properly depict your leadership. 

Sometimes when I do this little exercise a person will ask, “Do you mean my leadership STYLE?”

I used to say, “Sure, whatever you’re thinking about your leadership.” But I no longer say that. Instead, I ask, “Is your style what mostly defines your leadership?” They’ll usually say something like, “Well, I’m not sure.” Or, “It’s a big part of it.”

Your single sentence statement about your leadership is your simple, concise statement about your leadership. I don’t expect you to get it right the first time. In fact, I’d urge you to consider keeping a diary of your one-sentence daily. It might be a very profitable thing to even consider writing down your single sentence before you enter the office of what you’d like it to be that day, then write another sentence at the end of the day to see how far apart the two might be. Many executives have found that little – and crazy simple – exercise worthwhile because it reveals the gap between who we really are and who we really want to be.

No, I’m not going to give you any examples because I want you to think for yourself. This isn’t about something else. It’s not about your most ideal version of you either. It’s about what you think and how you feel about your own leadership. It’s about getting on paper (or into Evernote) a single sentence statement about your leadership.

People often think that any kind of assessment, taken at one moment in time, may properly depict them, but consider this. It’s a moment in time. I’m not talking about these scientific assessments where the questions remain the same and we may be tainted because we already know (and have answered) the questions. I’m not smart enough to know how you might take such an assessment and get a completely different, but inaccurate result because you’ve seen the questions before. But I know that the answer to single question can change over time. They have for me.

To the question, “What’s your professional goal?” a 30-year-old version of me would have answered that very differently than the current version of me. I’m at a completely different place in life now. With totally different experiences and skills. And hopefully a bit more wisdom. My family is also at a different place. I have a son-in-law, a daughter-in-law and 5 grandkids that I didn’t have when I was 30. Let me tell you, that changes everything! 😉

Time, experience and perspective impact not only our perceptions, but our reality. That’s why I’m very fond of the daily “before” and “after” kind of exercise. One single sentence before walking into the office and one single sentence at the end of the day after leaving the office. Do that long enough and you’ll likely discover a few important things to help you become an even better leader. If nothing else, the exercise will force a bit of introspection and that’s something every leader could use.

I’d love to hear from you if you decide to tackle this challenge. Let me know what your before and after sentences are. Tell me how this has impacted you – if it has.

Randy

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Leadership: Think, But Don't Over-Think - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 286

286 Leadership: Think, But Don’t Over-Think

Leadership: Think, But Don't Over-Think - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 286

Data. It’s the business strategy road map for every organization. Every organization.

What’s your business? Who are you serving? How are you serving them? What do they want? How and when do they want it?

Today’s high performing organizations aren’t merely reviewing past performance, they’re focused on predicting their own future – but maybe better said, they’re devoted to making their future come true based on data (evidence). Evidence-based leadership was my topic a few episodes ago, but that was just a high-level view of it. I didn’t even really mention the big elephant in the room – the major obstacle for many leaders to follow evidence. Desire. Many just don’t want to see or know the evidence. They want to make the decision based on their preferences, experiences or gut-feel. That’s why far too many CEO’s and top leaders relish their authority. They want to use that power to make the decision. Maybe they want to prove how smart they are. Maybe they feel it’s why they’re in that top seat. But it’s bull-headed and foolish in today’s world. The best organizations on the planet don’t run that way and their CEO’s are among the most powerful people in the world. Look at Amazon, Netflix and Google.

Being Data-Driven About Our Own Leadership

The point of today’s show is to be fast in gathering and dissecting data, but we also have to be fast to take proper action. It’s one thing to think – to collect data and to analyze it. It’s something else to over-think it. That is, to keep gathering data in hopes that we can fill every empty gap that may exist in our knowledge of the market, our customers or our business.

But before we can really dive into data, we probably need to look inside ourselves as leaders. There are 3 perspectives crucial to every leader. I discussed these in episode 284.

How do you see yourself?

How do others see you?

How do you want to be seen?

I’ve found that even the most outwardly confident leaders sometimes struggle with a loss of confidence. Nobody seems immune from head trash. Some handle it more proficiently, but we all have to wrestle with it. Being data-driven may not really be so disconnected from these 3 questions if you really think about it though.

You see yourself the way you see yourself for a reason. Or reasons. They may range from very credible to very incredible. I’ve sat across business owners or C-suite executives who openly confessed how they felt they’d be “found out” at any moment. They felt as though they were fooling the universe, but there was no evidence to verify their head trash. Quick to ascribe their success to timing or luck, or both, they sometimes feel as though they’re actors in a grand play that is their life. They’re wrong, of course, but they think what they think.

I’ve also seen other executives who did have a pretty defined history of some great fortune and timing, but they insist that their brilliance is the primary reason for their success. They don’t see themselves like those earlier folks. Two completely different viewpoints. Two perspectives of people who see themselves very differently.

Whether you see yourself as being all that and a bag of chips, or you see yourself being a complete fraud — it matters. My advice is to understand that you may not be as good as you think you are, but you’re probably not as bad as you feel you are either. We’re all complex. Our pasts are dotted with failures, success and somethings that fall in between the two. Our accomplishments are rarely due solely to our own work. Most (if not all) of us owe somebody for lending us a hand along the way. Maybe it was an introduction that came as at an ideal time. Maybe it was an opportunity that arrived when we needed it the most. I have a list of people in my wake who have helped me along the way. I wouldn’t be where I am today without the help and support of MANY people. I am NOT a self-made man. Good thing, too – cause I know I’m not that good. But I also know I’m not that bad.

Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people. So, I’d encourage you to get over yourself if you feel you alone are responsible for your position of leadership. I’d encourage you to stop feeling like a fraud if you feel you’re unworthy of your position. Instead, I could likely argue that we’re all likely exactly where we belong. We’re where we are as leaders because of the sum total of our decisions and choices. We acted based on those choices and here we are. Maybe EXACTLY where we belong. Now, the question changes…what are we going to do with the leadership we’ve got?

Examine the data that put you where you are. Think about the people who have served you. Are you devoted to be that somebody for others? Or are you mostly interested in protecting yourself?

Great leaders don’t spend their days protecting themselves. They take the bullets so others don’t have to. It’s in the DNA of the greatest leaders to serve, serve, serve. They know that’s the road to having the biggest impact on the largest number of people. And if there’s one thing every great leader has in common it’s this – to make a difference! You have to believe in your ability to make a positive difference. You have to know in your gut that if you weren’t the leader, the organization would suffer. Not because of anything specific you do – it’s not about your work product – but because of the difference you make in the lives of the people you lead. Without you serving them, running interference for them and helping knock down their constraints – these people would certainly suffer greater hardships in the organization. You make their lives better by helping them achieve higher human performance!

Is This Really Data-Driven? Or Is It Touchy-Feely?

It’s both. You feel the way you feel. It’s based on something. Data enters into it somewhere. It doesn’t have to be accurate data. The anorexic person feels and thinks they look fat. They’re wrong, but you won’t convince them otherwise. Sure, they’ve got a disorder, but many leaders have disorders, too. In both cases the challenge is the same — to get people to see themselves as they really are, warts and all. That’s the THINKING part of this whole deal. As leaders we’ve got to get it right!

How do you see yourself?

Do you see yourself as you really are? Some people encourage you to ask other people how they see you, in order to figure this out, but that won’t work. That’ll just tell you how they feel about you. You’ve got to come to grips with how you see yourself. That was largely the topic of episode 284 about having a leadership reality check.

Now, I’d like to encourage you to figure out how important you think it is for YOU to have all the answers. That’s at the heart of over-thinking it. Sometimes executives feel they’re in their position because they have to be THE answer man or woman. It’s a pitfall I’d encourage you to avoid. Besides, it’s lonely and less effective than including others and keeping things as simple as possible.

It’s People. It’s Also Processes.

Let’s focus on the 2 main components of over-thinking. First, people.

I intentionally spent time on this in the last episode about collaboration. But for today, over-thinking often happens when people lose sight of the objective to solve a problem, create improvement or accomplish some other business objective. It’s especially tempting for very smart, well-educated people to want to outshine others in the room. Leaders can sometimes be jealous of the good ideas of their team, too. Egos can drive down productivity and wreck team chemistry. Avoid it. The room isn’t for people to let their intellect shine. Well, it shouldn’t be.

I’m lurking on a Blab session the other day, mostly listening to it in the background while I sorted through my email inbox for about 15 minutes. The Blab session was a 4-way conversation with some leadership coaches. The conversation wasn’t indicative of a room of executives trying to solve a problem, but it did remind me of some behaviors I’ve seen in such rooms. Each coach in the Blab session was trying to out-wit the others. It was a 15-minute exhibition in a game of oneupmanship with each participant working to show up the others. That same agenda often enters the conference rooms where people are tasked with finding good solutions. A great leader manages the meeting so it doesn’t devolve into a game where over-thinking is highly regarded. Instead, the objective should always be the provide the best solution possible. Never ridicule simple or those who suggest simple.

Take the work seriously. Take yourself much less so.

Herein lies the problem. People taking themselves too seriously and thinking the goal is all about showing off. Not in a big, bravado way — but in a way where people think they’re smart. I’ve sat in far too many conference rooms observing and participating in problem solving sessions where the issue is quickly clouded with misdirections caused by people more anxious to garner the praise of others than to come up with a straightforward suggestion or question. How many meetings have you been in where simply staying on point seemed nearly impossible? Why is that so hard? Because people are coming with a hidden agenda to look good instead of being effective. All the while forgetting that they’re one and the same – you’re good if you’re effective!

Sometimes the smarter the room, the more difficult it can be to recognize the simple solutions or ideas. Smart people – truly smart people – can feel the need to be smart (and act smart). It means they often seek out sophistication. But it foils success when we over-complicate things. “Everybody thinks muddy water is deep,” is a statement an old preacher friend of mine used to make whenever people who hear somebody speak, but they had no idea what was being said. And he was right. “Man, she’s smart. I have no idea what she was talking about.”

I’m sitting in a room with about 20 or so other people. Somebody is talking about their project and all the steps they’re taking to prepare. He’s going on and on about various smart moves he’s making. It’s evident he’s pretty pleased with how strategic he’s being. And he starts talking about all the various metrics he’s using to determine his progress. An older gentleman has heard enough. I’ve watched him shift in his seat for about 3 minutes now and I know he’s anxious to pipe up. Finally, he blurts out, “Personally, in my business I don’t much care about anything except sales. If I’m selling stuff, then I know it’s working. If I’m not selling stuff, then I know I need to change something.”

A few people, including me, chuckle. But I’m like the older gentleman. Old school. Simple. Straight forward. Focused on what really matters. Who cares about all that other stuff? Measure your brains out, if nobody is buying your stuff…you can shove those measurements anywhere you’d like. Nuff said.

And there it is. Another instance of overthinking, sounding smart, but being stupid. Making something far more complicated than it needs to be.

I’m sure somewhere there’s a space where brains and sounding smart trumps real action – I’m thinking of national politics 😉 – but I don’t operate or live in that world. In my world, things must get done. Money must be earned. Profits must hit the bottom line. If not, then people lose jobs. Companies are at risk. The math is pretty simple and there’s no reason to make it harder than it really is. Generate revenues. Control costs. Make profits. Build the road. Fix the bridge. Paint the house. Sell the service. Fix the problem.

I realize the execution of these things can be complex at times, but why complicate an already complicated problem? We’ve all heard the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. Keep it simple. Straightforward. Most of the problems facing us in our businesses aren’t terribly complicated. Some may be. We’re all fully capable of making things harder than they need to be.

The energy lost is incalculable. Not the mention the lost time. And money. Staying on point, moving along toward the best answer is always more difficult than you might think. I’ll illustrate with something with which you can likely easily relate. Have you ever been in a workshop – some sort of training where the instructor opened it up for questions? Sure, most all of us have been in many of these kinds of meetings. Is every question pertinent to the subject at hand? Have you ever seen a questioner who wanted the spotlight…and they asked something that had little or nothing to do with the topic at hand?

I don’t think I’ve ever attended any such session where that didn’t happen at least once! There’s one in every crowd. Your job, as a leader, is to first – make sure it’s not YOU. Secondly, make sure that person doesn’t derail the process to find the best answer. Like a talk radio host, sometimes you just need to hang up or quickly dismiss a disruptive caller. Be fearless in your quest to make things as simple as possible, but no simpler than necessary. Maybe you craft a very complex, sophisticated answer, but how effective will it be if nobody can understand it and even fewer can execute it?

I rest my case.

Randy

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Performance Metrics For Leadership - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 282

282 Performance Metrics For Leadership

Performance Metrics For Leadership - HIGHER HUMAN PERFORMANCE Podcast Episode 282

You want what you want. There are traits and characteristics that matter to you. And there are some other qualities you don’t much care about one way or the other. Every top leader has preferences.

Sometimes it’s personality. It may be a certain communication style. It could even be a specific university credential you find more valuable than another.

Biases. Preferences. Inclinations. Tendencies. I don’t much care what you call them because we’ve all got them. And they transfer up and down the chain of our organization when it comes to our expectations of our leaders, too. We prefer what we prefer and we want what we want. Often without giving it too much thought.

You’d Better Think

courtesy of Flickr user @H. Michael Karshis
courtesy @H. Michael Karshis*

Aretha’s big hit, RESPECT, started with that admonition and it’s wise for every leader to follow it. We’d better stop and think about what we expect and the ways we’re measuring leadership in our organizations.

I intentionally call them “performance metrics” for a reason – they should be based on actual performance instead of simply our personal preferences. The military leaders have an expectation of their leaders. Drill sergeants are expected to produce a specific outcome – soldiers prepared to defend the country. But they’re also expected to produce those results in a specific way, with a certain demeanor and persona. I suspect the branches of the military don’t allow much wiggle room for a drill sergeant tasked with training new recruits much latitude in devising his own program. Strict, regimented protocol is the order of the day, every day. They do what they do because inherently they believe it’s the best approach. History and performance show military what works. They value what they value and who can argue with it?

Now look inside your organization or team. Part of thinking involves figuring out what you most value. The military mostly values compliance and obeying orders, especially in new recruits. If you can’t accept being told what to do, there’s no place for you in the military. By the way, that may be true in many other endeavors, too. The military needs men and women devoted to learning and getting it right 100% of the time. Errors can result in death. Instinctively knowing what to do and when to do it is crucial in their world. The training is designed to bring that about in the men and women who serve. It’s for the welfare of each team and each team member. As a result, the performance of the entire military hinges on it.

What’s most important in your organization?

That’s entirely up to who you are and what you do. And how you want to do it. For example, there’s a new online video streaming social media platform called Blab. You can check out my profile at RandyCantrell.com/blab. The other day they did a live streaming tour of their 25,000 square foot headquarters in San Francisco. This is a start up that’s been live for a matter of months. They have under 20 people working for them. They operate like many tech startup’s. It’s a holocracy kind of set up, with people coming and going at all hours of the day and night. Everybody is working a ton of hours, so the traditional work environment doesn’t work for them. Instead, this small team of people is doing the work of a much larger staff because they’re working almost non-stop, round the clock, but they do it from their offices, from home, from little nooks and sofas around the office, from the park — or anywhere else they happen to be (or want to be). The work is more important to them than having butts in seats at desks in the office.

Blab, like many of their technology counterparts, have a trust in their small team. They trust the team to dive in and do what must be done regardless of what the clock or calendar says. Their top leader said the only important thing to him and to Blab is that people get their work done. The tour is about an hour long. It’s recorded at Blab and you can watch it here.

Other organizations operate very differently. Some want all their employees at their desks promptly by 8am. They view butts in chairs as a performance metric. If somebody isn’t where they’re supposed to be by 8am leaders see it as slothfulness, lethargy or worse. They believe that people need to be at a certain place in order to do the work. Blab doesn’t. I’m not judging the rightness or wrongness of either – it just displays the vast difference between two cultures based on their beliefs. And those beliefs determine what gets measured and how performance gets judged.

We need to start with our own thinking because, as with many things, we can fall into traps thinking we’re judging the right things when we’re really not. The company that judges butts in chairs assumes two basic things: 1) people can only do their work from their desks and 2) people can’t be slothful while at their desk. Sure, we all know both assumptions are faulty. To be fair, I guess that first assumption could be correct if the person’s job is data entry, speed dialing prospects or answering phones in a call center, but most tasks aren’t just restricted to a single desk. And even those who are restricted to a single desk can certainly be abused with lethargy, poor work habits and distractions that cause poor performance. It’s just not as simple as making sure people are where you think they belong.

What’s Most Important To You?

one thingLet’s start here instead of diving headlong into specific behaviors because it’s important for us to think about WHY we do what we do, and why we want what we want. Blab wants exponential growth and user adoption. They want high user engagement. And they’re getting all of those things because they’re out front listening and responding to user feedback. They’re engaging the early adopters of the platform because they know these are the people who will fuel their growth. They also clearly want technical proficiency in the platform. That is, they want Blab to work and well.

There are currently about 316 million active Twitter users monthly, according to Twitter. In order to log onto Blab you need a Twitter account. I don’t know how many people are on Blab currently, but I suspect it’s changing every second. I’m sure it’s well into the millions and yet their team is under 20 people. Blab isn’t the first small team to show us how effective and efficient very few people can be. People speculate (I don’t know for sure how to find out) that the US military SEAL teams consist of 16-man platoons. A small group of highly trained, well equipped, highly disciplined and highly motivated people can do big, big things!

Are sales and acquiring new customers the most important thing to you? How about serving existing customers better, maybe that’s the most important thing to you? Is doing world-class work (it could be anything from managing an entire city government and all the moving parts that entails, or it could building skyscrappers) the most important thing? What matters the most?

This is where people often misstep by saying, “All of it is important.” In essence, they say, “We don’t have ANY priorities.”

Yet, I’ve never seen an organization that didn’t have priorities. Some may not think about it as clearly as they could, but when you press hard enough you find out every team, every organization has A priority. They have one thing that matters more than anything else. The problem is they don’t talk of it often enough. They don’t focus on it often enough. They allow themselves to be distracted with all the other stuff that may be involved in the pursuit of the priority.

I began my career as a hi-fi sales guy because I loved listening to music. My priority was the music though, not the gear. Without the music, I wouldn’t have cared one thing about the gear. As a sales guy I mostly want to connect people with the right gear to enhance their experience with the music they wanted to hear. Not everybody had my taste in music. No problem. I was well versed in what the gear could do and I developed the skill to help a person who loved classical music get the best system his budget would allow. Then, I could do the same thing for the guy who mostly listened to metal. Different set up in all likelihood, but same exact goal and purpose – to give the customer the system that would best suit their listening preferences.

I could have been distracted with the specifics of every piece of gear just for the sake of loving the gear, but the gear had a purpose. To deliver the listening experience most suitable to the customer. What specifics are you getting caught up in that are distracting you from the primary purpose or objective of the work? Think about it. Carefully.

One thing. Narrow it down to one thing.

This needs to be the one thing that everybody on your team knows to be true…so you can’t fake it. Here are some examples, but these are generic for our purposes in this conversation. However, each one has a more specific goal based on the organization.

• Customer acquisition (this is about leading the space by having the most customers)
• World-class design (Apple is an example, focusing their design on the best user experience possible)
• Low cost provider (think Wal-Mart)
• Fastest service (a local plumber who claims 2-hour response time day or night)
• Best selection (Whole Foods takes pride in having a great selection of organic items)
• Remarkable client service (Nordstrom’s has crafted legendary service)

It’s not a mission statement or a statement of philosophies. It’s the over-arching thing you want to get done! It’s what you want to be known for.

You need everybody in your organization to be on board with chasing it as hard as they can. You can’t afford people to lose sight of the priority. Sure, Apple, Blab and other technology companies need crack engineers to make the technology work, but Apple’s commitment to design is world-class because they focus on user experience. That means Apple doesn’t just care about the feature, but they care about how the feature works and feels to the user. Everybody and everything in your organization should be able to point back to the one thing that matters most. The whole team pulls in the direction of that one thing – and that’s what makes your organization unique, remarkable and special. It’s your edge!

How Are We Going To Get It Done?

how
…but how?

There are many paths toward a single thing. Whole Foods isn’t interested in having the biggest selection of just anything. They’re known for organic, hence the name, “Whole Foods.” They pander to a specific shopper willing to pay premium prices for the best organic foods available without driving to a farmer’s market. Convenience, nice, clean, well-organized and well-lit are all part of the Whole Foods’ experience, but those aren’t their ONE thing — those are ways they accomplish their ONE thing. Your organization will need these details in place, too. It’s your answer to the question, “HOW?”

It’s not possible to chase your one thing without caring how it gets done. Lots of teams stumble here as people wonder (often aloud), “Why do they care how we do it? Shouldn’t it be good enough to just get it done?”

It does matter how things are done because they need to be congruent with the ONE thing. Apple engineers could likely incorporate some features customers might want, but until they can do it in a way that delivers superior user experience, Apple isn’t going to incorporate them. World-class design is the ONE thing, but killer user experience and interface are mandatory. You’ve got your own mandatory things, too. It’s important that your entire organization embrace the methodologies that are important to your ONE thing.

Every member of your team needs to be taught why HOW matters. You do that by helping them see how their work contributes to the number one, most important thing. From the top, most highly compensated to the seemingly lowest, menial job on your team – everybody’s work must be seen in light of the biggest priority. Without that, you’ll never be able to duly impress on people why HOW matters.

Again, when you consider Apple, it’s the HOW that makes all the difference. Apple may “think different” but they execute different, too. They don’t do it the way others do it. They produce the most intuitive technology on the planet because their big thing is driven hard by how they accomplish it. Your organization needs proper focus on HOW in order to make the work remarkable. Remarkable work is the goal of every high performing – or would be high performing – organization I’ve ever worked with. And because you’re reading this or listening to this, it must mean you’re interested in growth and improvement. It’s the sign of a top performer, constant learning.

Take something as mundane as budgets. Every organization creates a budget. Some small organizations may just have an Excel spreadsheet consisting of a single sheet. Others can produce a massive document with hundreds of pages and a fully indexed appendix. “Just prepare the budget,” is a bad order for any leader to give. What’s included, how it is included, where does it belong, how much is enough, how much is too much, where to put resources, where to remove or lessen resources — these are important issues that speak to HOW the budget will be crafted. Budgets can be done poorly or they can be done well. HOW determines the outcome. It can’t be a “just get it done” ordeal.

Sometimes I encounter people who oppose a designated HOW approach to leadership and measuring performance. They may cite how McDonald’s has processes and procedures for every little thing, but they have no creativity or innovation. First off, I can’t speak with any authority that McDonald’s doesn’t allow creativity or innovation. Do they allow people to craft burgers any way they’d like? No. It’s regimented. Likewise with all the other things they prepare. They have a precise way of doing things and the demand – much like our military – is that it be done that way each and every time. Delivering predictable, successfully replicated food time after time is what McDonald’s does. They don’t claim to have the best hamburger in the world. They just promise that you’ll get what you’ve come to expect. It doesn’t matter if you’re in Shawnee, Oklahoma or London, England – you’re going to get what you expect because they follow a process (their HOW). When you visit McDonald’s you’re happy about that, too.

That doesn’t mean that McDonald’s isn’t listening to their people who may have suggestions on ways to get better. It doesn’t mean they’re not innovative in finding new items their customers might want. It just means in the context of delivering products to customers, they take no chances. They do what they know works. It’s not so much a lack of innovation or creativity as it is about proper time and place. When I’m in the drive through waiting on my McDonald’s burger and fries, I don’t want somebody trying to trick it up with an innovative idea. I came there with an expectation. I want that expectation met. I don’t go to McDonald’s for a speciality meal. Nobody does.

A common question I’m asked is, “How can we focus on HOW and predictable results and still have innovation?” Easy. You have to separate some things, namely the moments in time when innovation is allowed or fostered and the times that it’s completely inappropriate. Depending on your organization it can be easy or hard.

I had to visit the Apple store a few months back for a technical problem with some hardware. I made an appointment online through their website, then went to the store at the appointed time. I’ve done this before. I know the drill and how it works. When I arrived at the store I gave them my name. They explained that their computer system was down. They asked me the time of my appointment, trusting me to tell them the truth. I did. They made note of it and directed me to a line back toward the Genius Bar. It went just like it would have done had their system been up, except they were having to improvise. They were having to innovate on the fly due to a technical glitch. But I’m sure they huddled or pre-prepared what to do when this sort of thing happened. It was out the norm, but they did what they had to do. It worked because they were all on the same page, executing the same plan. If the guy who greeted me at the door had decided he’d innovate and do things differently, my experience would have been less than stellar. Wrong time to innovate. The time to innovate was whenever they got together to craft an emergency plan on how to handle incoming customers when the computer system goes down.

How is your organization any different? It’s not. There are times to embrace and foster creativity and innovation. For most of us, it’s not during execution — especially execution with customers. Protocol, processes and workflows require creativity and innovation. Make sure you have times and places built in to let the best ideas bubble to the top. After the decision is made, demand faithful execution to the product or service delivered is always spot on.

Judging The Performance

You want what you want. That priority – your ONE thing – and how you get it done is entirely up to you if you’re the top leader. It’s your responsibility to teach it, train it and expect it (which means holding people accountable for it). Whenever I’m serving a client I’m in no position to architect these things. My job is to serve the leader by helping them elevate their own leadership performance and the performance of their team or organization. Sure, my work mostly is done with organizations congruent with my view of leadership, but all these specifics of the work aren’t my responsibility. Yes, sometimes I’m asked – in fact, I’m often asked – to offer my opinion to a top leader, but I would never contradict what top leadership wants. Rather, it’s my role to ensure that top leaders grow in their effectiveness to establish their priorities, set up how they want things done and hold their people properly accountable for getting the work done.

Leaders have to judge the performance of the people on their team. How will you know if they’re getting these things right? Well, it hinges on how they value things – and what they value.

I focus on performance. That’s why that word is part of the title of the podcast. It doesn’t diminish the importance of the HOW, but it does put the emphasis where I think it belongs – the quality of the work done. So much of my work is concentrated on what the world calls “soft skills.” People skills. They matter because there are people capable of produced high quality work, but they can’t get along with others. Just recently a team leader told me about being short a person because he parted with a high achiever. Fully expecting to hear about how it was putting him behind schedule or some other constraint brought about the loss of a valued team member…instead he told me how much more his short-handed team was accomplishing. When I asked how that worked, he went on to tell me how disruptive the high achiever was. Turns out this person did good, even great work, on his own, but he brought down the productivity of everybody who had to interact with him. He was suppressive, even oppressive to the rest of the team. Now, with him gone, the rest of the team was happier and vastly more productive. So how would YOU judge that high achiever? Based solely on his own performance or based on his overall impact on the team’s performance? I agree with his leader.

Stepping over dollars for dimes is common place in many organization, especially those who can’t seem to focus on their ONE thing. But the rest of us can be prone to do it, too. Something can irk us that may have little or nothing to do with performance. We like what we like. We believe what we believe. Maybe it’s based on evidence. Maybe not. Go back and listen to the last episode about evidence-based leadership (#281). Let me encourage you to lose whatever biases or world views you’ve got that aren’t based in evidence. I do that because I know it can destroy your performance measurements. You can’t establish good metrics for performance if they hinge mostly on what you like or dislike. Those can swing wildly like a person’s mood. And they ruin people who are trying desperately to figure out how to please you, and do good work.

But be careful about measurements that don’t take into account the things that really matter to you. For example, our high achiever who destroyed the productivity of the entire team could have passed an annual review with flying colors. He could have been scored using a dashboard that viewed mostly what he got done and be seen as an A+ player. But such a scorecard wouldn’t have been accurate. It wouldn’t have told the entire story. So craft your dashboards with care. Make sure you weight the actions and activities that properly depict what you want done, how you want it done and when you want it done! See the big picture and all the details, too.

Some Final Tips

  1. Carefully craft your number one priority – your ONE big deal. What do you most want to accomplish?
  2. Figure out HOW you want to get it done. Embrace creativity and innovation to come up with the most efficient, compelling way to get the work done.
  3. Don’t ignore onboarding new team members, and don’t neglect to train and indoctrinate the current staff. They need to fully embrace the one big priority and how you’re going to get it done. They also have to be trained to understand your expectations.
  4. Set and expect high performance standards. Create dashboards or scorecards that give you the most accurate (evidence) picture of how well people are performing. Make sure you’re measuring the things that will accomplish what you want, when you want and how you want.
  5. Coach it up. When people fail, make sure they really understand how to deliver the results you want. If they don’t, retrain them. If they do, don’t tolerate any lack of willingness to do what you want done (that includes doing it how you want it done). Compliance, once the system is built, is a must.
  6. Foster input and feedback, but don’t ignore the established workflows. And don’t allow deviations from the agreed upon processes unless that deviation is due to extraordinary circumstances AND it takes the organization forward with dazzling customer experiences (i.e. Apple’s behavior when their system is down in the store).
  7. Reward all the best performers. Focus on the people doing the very best work. Give them what they need to do even better.
  8. Correct poor performers. Coach them, train them and correct them. Don’t live with them if their status quo isn’t cutting it. You can’t soar by leading to the lowest common denominator. You win with star players!
  9. Celebrate victories. Reward the performance you most want to achieve. You can train dogs with treats, not with beatings.

Your performance metrics are the ones that best serve YOU and your organization. Just make sure they are serving you and not distracting you from the primary objectives you’ve established. Measure the stuff that really matters. Don’t sweat the stuff that has no bearing on the objectives you’ve established on your organization, keeping in mind that “no bearing” means stuff that doesn’t negatively impact your work, your culture or your processes.

Randy

* Photo courtesy Flicker users H. Michael Karshis

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