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Happy New Year 2014 - Ballard Street

230 Home, Habits & Happiness: Why It’s Time To Kill This Podcast

Happy New Year 2014 - Ballard Street

Optimism. For some, it comes easy. For others, it’s anything but. However, when a new year arrives almost everybody has some sense of it. I don’t know why a calendar can have such a powerful impact. We’re 6 months into 2014 and by now, most of the folks I knew what were optimistic in early January, have tempered their enthusiasm. Some have abandoned it altogether.

Optimism is hard work. Not for the faint of heart. Almost 180 days into the new year grind takes on a toll on the stoutest among us I suppose. I’m certainly not immune to losing heart. When I do, I have to concentrate on three things: home, habits and happiness!

Home

Home represents family, closeness, the best relationships on earth and security. It should. I know that’s not true for everybody. I’m mindful of abused children, wives and other calamities that define dysfunctional homes. It makes me want to do more in my own home because I know in 2014 I can do more to express my love, care and concern for my tribe. My family is my tribe. I don’t believe in tribal business. I believe in tribal family.

Home isn’t always where the heart is, but it should be. Husbands should love their wives. Wives should love their husbands. Together they should love and train their children.

Home represents security, comfort, stability and support.

Habits

Habits, for me, begin with those involving faith. I’m unapologetic about that because I know I’m not nearly as “in control” as I might like to think. God is in control.

One of the most common ideas I encounter with people who claim to have faith is the notion that God is a magic genie. Nothing in scriptures teach that, so I’m not quite sure why people hold that idea, but almost every day I encounter people who honestly believe they can ask God for something because He’s poised and ready to grant them their wish.

If you love where you’re at in life, what did you do every day to get there? Have you stopped doing that? Lots of folks do. They get complacent. Or they feel like the climb is over. It’s never over. Well, okay, when you die it’s over. The climb that is, but not life. If you don’t believe in life after this one, well, why bother then? Just call it a day already.

Life is a knife fight that goes on. You can’t quit. Your daily habits determine the results. If you’re not happy about your lot in life, then what are you going to do about it? What daily habits are you going to incorporate to improve things?

Yes, it’s hard. Ridiculously hard. But what choice do we have? Do you really want to resign yourself to a life you hate? Or a dissatisfied life?

I confess that my daily habits are mostly to blame for my inadequacies. Too often I simply choose to not do the things I should, or I do things that don’t profit me. Smokers keep smoking. Fat people keep eating. Addicts keep shooting dope. Alcoholics keep drinking. Maybe our habits aren’t nearly as bad, but they can still be devastating to our success.

We mostly do what we want to do because what we do works for us at some level. That’s why interventions are sometimes necessary. Until or unless something drastic happens, we keep doing what we’ve always done.

What if you’re not pleased with the results? What if you want different results? Then change your habits. Do something different. Do things differently. Shake it up.

Happiness

I’m at an age where I don’t dwell much on this. Not like I did when I was younger. These days I prefer a different word: contentment. But I use them interchangeably really. Contentment is happiness.

I found this video interesting. Happiness, it turns out, has a lot to do with a person’s sense of gratitude. But I already knew that. Maybe it’s my faith. Maybe it’s knowing how blessed I am, even though I don’t always express it as I should.

What do you think makes you happy? I use the word “think” because so many people really don’t know what makes them happy. Many are left to wander about it. Some claim to never have experienced it. Others think if they can’t experience it 100% of the time then they haven’t yet found it. That’s why I so hate the whole pursue your passion conversation. It presupposes that you must experience constant passion.

Passion is an emotion, a feeling. Do you want your whole life to be defined by a single emotion? Not me. Sometimes I need to cry. Other times I need to laugh. You do, too. We all do. It’s the stuff of life.

It’s popular to deny that things are important, but actions speak louder than words. People are still chasing exotic cars, bigger houses, electronic toys and more. More. More. More.

On the other end of the spectrum are the minimalists. I rather admire them. Part of me would love to try it. Sadly, I’ve got too much clutter in my life. I’m not sure I’ll live long enough to declutter my life. Even so, I should try.

People. Yes, there’s the rub for all of us. People. It’s people that really matter. It’s relationships that make us happy. Because it’s people to whom we’re most grateful, assuming the research cited in that video is correct.

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I’ve been needing to do this for awhile. I’ve been wanting to do it almost from the beginning. I’m without excuse.

Lethargy. Habit. Complacency. Low energy. Lack of direction. It’s all in play.

But I can’t lay it at the feet of any of those things really. It’s mostly about one thing, desire. I’ve lost heart for the current iteration.

It’s about people, but it boils down to desire. What is my desire when it comes to people? You know who I’m talking about, don’t you? YOU. It’s about YOU. But it’s about me, too.

The question to be answered…

What do I want to do for YOU?

Maybe it’s the wrong approach, but it’s honest. I’m tired of people asking, “What can I do for you?” My answer is almost always going to be, “Nothing.” It just sound disingenuous. And it’s growing increasingly trite.

Yes, you are important. Here, you’re important in the context of what value I can offer you. The value proposition is a 2-way street. It’s like a tandem bike. It takes both of us to make it go. But one of us has to steer. That’s my role here. HERE. I don’t drive everywhere. I just drive here. But I can’t simply say, “This is where we’re going. You just sit back there pedal hard and be happy with where we’re headed.” You have a say in where we’re headed. I have to make the decision to take you where you want to go, provided I have the skill and desire to take you there.

If you want to go deeper into the world of soccer – yeah, I admit it…the 2014 World Cup is on the TV here inside The Yellow Studio as I write this – then I’m not going to take you there. One, I’m not qualified. Two, I’m terribly disinterested. There’s more flopping in futbol than live fish hauled into a bass boat. Drives me crazy.

There are tons of places you might want to go that would be unsuitable for me. You wouldn’t take a train to Boston if you wanted to go to Philly. This is about me deciding what I do best do to serve…and figuring out where I want to go. Then, it’s about finding others who want to come along with me. And lastly, it’s about making it compelling so I can take as many people possible with me.

What does that have to do with home, habits and happiness?

Everything.

These are the things of life. These are the things that determine the course of our life. That includes how we contribute to the world. How we show our gratitude.

That’s why today’s episode is the final episode for this version of the podcast. When I return, things will be different. Better. Brand new.

What will it look like? Sound like?

I don’t know. I’m still working on it. In the meantime, I’ll be podcasting over at Leaning Toward Wisdom.

Go here if you’d like to give me your feedback. Or, you can leave me a voicemail by clicking that “Send Voicemail” tab to the right.

I look forward to hearing from you. And I’m pretty excited about starting over!

Randy

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229 A Conversation With Paul Spiegelman

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Paul Spiegelman

Meet Paul Spiegelman. He’s another Dallas/Ft. Worth guy with some noteworthy accomplishments.

Find out how Paul started a business that involved spending nights on a cot to serve customers 24 hours a day…and ultimately became a best selling author, speaker and culture enthusiast.

Paul Spiegelman is Chief Culture Officer of Stericycle, a NASDAQ listed global services organization with 13,000 employees and is the Founder of BerylHealth and The Beryl Institute. Paul also co-founded the Inc. Small Giants Community, an organization that brings together leaders who are focused on values-based business principles.

I had this talk with Paul last year for a not-yet-launched project, ChasingDFWCool.com. I’m still planning to launch that project, but this conversation with Paul needed to be released so you can benefit from it.

We talk about leadership, culture, customer service, writing and many other topics that Paul cares a great deal about. He’s also a Dallas Stars hockey fan so I knew I’d like him right away. I think you’ll like him, too.

Enjoy.

Randy

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The Coach’s Halftime Speech

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While the crowd is entertained, we’re in the locker room preparing for the 2nd half.

 

It’s the end of June, the end of the first half of another year. Did you play well in the first half? Are you behind on the scoreboard, or ahead?

It’s time to jog into the locker room and prepare for the second half of 2014. Meanwhile, the band hits the field and the twirlers prance around to entertain the folks in the stands.

You and me, we get no entertainment ’cause we’re playing in the game. While others are grabbing hot dogs and soft drinks, we’re busy reviewing what worked and what didn’t work in the first half.

Into the locker room we go. We remove our shoes, grab a towel and a Gatorade bottle and take our seat. The coach will be in here shortly and let us know what the plan is for the rest of the game.

After spending time with the other coaches, the head coach enters the room, grabs a whiteboard marker and begins.

He starts off barking about the things he knows we know how to do…but failed to do in the first half. It’s our neglect. He’s blasting us and we hang our head ’cause we know he’s right. There were lots of things we didn’t do because of our neglect. It wasn’t a lack of knowledge, or even practice. We were just too lazy to give it the effort it deserved. And it cost us. Our opponent took advantage of us. They outworked us. The coach is right.

The coach is specific. He even calls us out by name. It’s not personal. It’s individual. We’re responsible and he’s holding us accountable. We’ve let the team down. Again, the coach is right.

We hang our head some more, but after a few seconds of feeling bad and getting mad…we make up our  mind that the second half is going to be different. We’re going to fix the things that hurt us in the first half. The coach is right, “This second half is a brand new game. Forget the first half. It’s over. The only way to win this game is to win this second half.”

The coach starts focusing on the things we did well in the first half. He points out the success we had and why. He’s telling us to build on that. It’s evidence, he says, of the things we can do that our opponent can’t handle. He urges us to turn up the intensity in those areas.

He ends the halftime speech by telling us how we’re going to win this game. The strategy seems pretty clear. We’re going to do those things we’ve done in practice dozens of times. We know how to do them. He’s not telling us to rely on something brand new that we’ve never done – or some tactics we don’t know. Everything he’s telling us are things we know very well.

The coach diagrams a few things on the whiteboard to remind us of where to be, and when to be there. It’s all position and timing, things we’ve gone over and over again. It gives us visual evidence again of our responsibilities.

Our shoes are back on. We’re all ready to leave the locker room. It’s just about time to start the second half.

The coach has us huddle in close and he tells us in a loud, but calm tone…

Do what you know. Be responsible. Be accountable. Outwork your opponent. Refuse to lose!

He and the coaches leave the locker room. We’ve got seconds before heading out. Now all the players, still in the huddle are led by our captain who yells, “Refuse to lose on 3. One, two, three!” In unison, our team yells at the top our lungs, “Refuse to lose!”

It’s time to hit the field again. We’ve got another half to play!

Randy

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228 Free Form Friday, June 27, 2014

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Something tells me he never found her.

When obstacles arise you change your direction to reach your goal;
you do not change your decision to get there.”     -Zig Ziglar

Halfway through the year and it’s time to triage some things.

Do you triage your career? Your business? Your life?

What’s working? What’s not working?

Why isn’t it working? Why is it working?

What can I do differently? Better?

The focal points continue to be —

Do more of what works. Do less of what doesn’t.

No, that’s not the same mission you see most people talk about. They’ll say, “Do more of what makes you happy.” Or, “Do more of what makes you awesome.” Or, “Do more of what you love.” Or this one, “Do less, not more.”

I don’t find those valuable…for lots of reasons. Happiness varies. Chasing happiness also is ridiculously selfish.

As for awesomeness, most of us aren’t awesome and I’m cool with that. Do we have to be awesome to be productive, helpful and serving? Can we have moments of awesomeness? Of course. It’s like all the talk about heroes. We’ve likely all got the ability to be heroic at times. That doesn’t make us heroes. I do lots of work in leadership. Acts of leadership can be done by anybody at any time. That doesn’t make them leaders.

I love my family. I love my faith. I’m going to always try to “do more” of those things. But again, the way most people talk about love, especially in the context of “do more of what you love” seems awfully selfish. Do more of what YOU love.

As for “do less, not more” — well, that’s just sheer laziness. Nope, I’m not attracted to the concept of doing less. I’m attracted to doing more. I just want to make sure I’m putting forth the effort I should in the areas that deserve or need my work.

I want to do more of what works. I want to increase activities that result in progress. And I want to reduce the stuff I do that has no, or limited, results. Some call it success. Or winning. However I choose to define it – and all depends on the context:

Business/Career – I want to do more of what creates customers, dazzles customers, increases lead generation, improves profits/income, etc.

Spiritual – I want to do more of what increases holiness and righteousness.

Health – I want to do more of what will improve and maintain fitness, energy, etc.

Family – I want to do more of what will improve my marriage, my effectiveness as a father/grandfather, etc.

Friends – I want to do more of what will make me a better friend.

Today’s show is about change, improvement, exploration, discovery and attempting to get out of the woods. Enjoy!

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Randy

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227 A Conversation With Author/Speaker Mary DeMuth

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Author/Speaker Mary DeMuth

Last September I connected with Mary DeMuth, a DFW-based author/speaker. Our conversation was originally recorded for an upcoming project, ChasingDFWCool.com (a project that has suffered delay).

Today, I’m releasing this episode because there are some terrific insights provided by Mary. We talk about writing, speaking, overcoming difficulties and connecting with people who can support us.

More business people should take a lesson (or two) from creative people. Our lot in life isn’t so different, but our approaches often are. I hope you’ll reach out and thank Mary for spending some time teaching us the things she’d learned along the way.

Randy

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226 Why There Is Always Room For Another Weight-Loss Book (And Anything Else You Can Think Of)

Herman - The First Number Is FiveIt’s estimated that the weight loss industry in America – just the United States – exceeds $60 billion. Sixty BILLION dollars a year! That’s an enormous market. It’s a marketer’s dream.

Like the old gold rush days of the wild west, it’s also very crowded. Anywhere there’s a a large appetite for something, there’s going to be a big crowd gathered. Big opportunities drive big attention. Competition is fierce in the weight loss game, just as it is in any lucrative market. That doesn’t mean you can’t succeed. It just means it’s tougher and you’ll have to work for it.

Wait a minute, what?

Work for it?

I don’t wanna work for it. I want it to drop in my lap.

Folks with 100 pounds to lose want to get slim now. They don’t want to take a year to do it.

Fat people have 2 basic options: a) bariatric surgery or b) change.

Advertising for bariatric surgery continues to increase, driving higher demand. This year approximately 160,000 surgeries will be performed. They’re effective in helping patients lose weight and keep the weight off, but I have to wonder how much of the growth is because patients view it as an easier route to travel.

I know of people who have had surgery, lost a lot of weight – only to gain it back (and more) over time. Failing to adjust their lifestyle resulted in going right back to a life of obesity. Proving once more just how difficult it is to change!

There are at least four reasons why more and more books are published on weight loss:

  1. The market is enormous…and growing. Pun intended.
  2. Trial and error (with lots of failure) characterizes most of the market.
  3. People search for something that resonates and works for them.
  4. What one person embraces, another abhors. Style and substance vary along with their appeal.

These four things aren’t exclusive to weight loss. I think they have a much broader application.

The market is enormous…and growing.

The first reason isn’t universal. Not all markets are so large as weight loss. Some are, most are not.

Not all markets are growing. Some are stagnant while others are declining.

Without getting hung up in market size or opportunity, can we agree that in every market there are winners and losers? In other words, somebody, somewhere in a down market is winning…while others are losing.

I’m not going to get into all the reasons why that happens (that’s probably good fodder for another episode), but we often see somebody doing exceptionally well, even when times are tough. When times are good, we can see players struggle and go out of business.

A market is big enough for somebody to succeed. The number of winners in a market depends on the size of the market. In the weight loss game, there’s room for lots of winners. It also means there’s room for many more losers.

Whatever market you’re serving – let’s assume it’s big enough for you to succeed. We won’t assume it’s growing. There’s still room for opportunity because there’s always the portion of the market we don’t yet own – the part that our competitors are getting. That’s market growth we can claim if we can find a way to get it away from our competition.

The bottom line is, there’s a market to serve.

Herman - Table For TwoTrial and error (with lots of failure) characterizes most of the market.

People trying to lose weight will tell you, “I’ve tried every diet under the sun and so far, nothing has worked.” Or they may say, “I tried dozens of programs and none of them worked until I found this one.”

People are in the throws of trying and failing, trying and failing. Sometimes you run across somebody has finally tried something that works. Those stories fuel others to try whatever they tried.

The weight loss crowd are not repeat buyers, but many are chronic buyers. They may buy more than 2 weight loss products (books, diet regimes, exercise programs, etc.) every single year. Until they find something that works, they’re nobody’s customer for life because so far, nothing has worked.

People search for something that resonates and works for them.

This is true for most markets. We all want something we can relate to, or we want something represented by somebody we can relate to. And we want something that works well enough. Yes, it depends on what it is. If we’re building airplanes we have exacting requirements. Our vendor has to be FAA certified and the tolerances on the parts have to be precise. If we’re custom building hot rods, we can be much more flexible.

One solution won’t work for everybody in the weight loss industry. Well, to be fair, except for those suffering physical ailments that prevent it – good diet habits and regular exercise will work for almost everybody. But that’s hard. And it doesn’t resonate with everybody. If it did, we could ditch the whole weight loss industry and find some other meaningful use for $60 billion a year!

The truth is, people are looking for some easier solution. People want a magic solution. A secret formula to having a slim, trim and athletic body. Clever marketers are constantly offering that. Most are disappointed with the results, but a small percentage are going to find success in just about any program. It’s those stories of success that fuel the desire of others to give it a try.

It’s a numbers game. We could likely devise the wildest weight loss scheme possible and if we got enough people to try it, I guarantee somebody would succeed at it. I was reading about a researcher who went on a diet of convenience store food including Oreo cookies and Twinkies. He counted calories and didn’t exceed 1800 calories a day. He lost 27 pounds in 2 months and lowered his bad cholesterol by 20%. The average guy consumes about 800 more calories a day though…so his calorie restriction is what did the trick. This doesn’t address the wisdom of that diet over the long term. Nutritionally, it’s clearly suspect. Imagine the popularity of an Oreo cookie diet that touts losing 27 pounds in 60 days! If somebody would follow the calorie restriction part of it, they’d likely lose weight…but most wouldn’t. Most would eat an entire sleeve of Oreos and pronounce the diet a failure, then continue their search for something that would work “for them.”

What one person embraces, another abhors. Style and substance vary along with their appeal.

If you didn’t like Oreos or Twinkies that diet wouldn’t appeal to you. What’s wrong with you? Who doesn’t like Oreos and Twinkies?

Meat and cheese lovers fell in love with the Atkins diet. Others fell in love with the slow carb diet. Some embraced the Mediterranean diet. All because people have different tastes and desires.

But it’s not all about substance. Personalities and presentation matters, too. The weight loss industry is notorious for using celebrity endorsements in order to appeal to people who may like those celebrities. If you like Marie Osmond, you’ll likely be attracted to her program. If you like Terry Bradshaw or Dan Marino, you’ll be drawn to the program they promote. None of them are weight loss experts. They’re celebrities. If a weight loss company can hit you with a personality you really like, then you’re going to pay closer attention and assume that program may be just the one you’ve been looking for. That doesn’t mean it’ll work for you, but you’ll be more likely to invest in trying it.

There’s also a bonus reason that I didn’t mention at first because I wanted to save it for last – timing.

Sometimes we’re just not yet ready to hear it. Fat folks aren’t always in the mood or frame of mind to make a change. Or even to consider it.

A guy is eating 4000 calories a day in multiple fast food meals every day. All of them SUPER sized. One early afternoon chest pains hit him. He’s struggling to catch his breath. A co-worker rushes him to the emergency room. Just in time.

He suffered a heart attack. It wasn’t fatal…this time. The cardiologist warns him that if he doesn’t lose 125 pounds he won’t likely live long enough to celebrate 5 more birthdays. Suddenly, he’s got a different outlook on his eating habits. Will he change? Maybe. Maybe not. But he’s got a new perspective from which to make that choice now.

Timing happens in every market. This morning a woman drove to work without any concerns for the tires on her car. Her tires were fine. This afternoon, on the way home from work she suffered a blowout. Now, she’s in the market for a tire.

Our circumstances change and along with it, our needs and wants. Hit that woman with a tire advertisement in the morning and she didn’t likely even notice. Expose her to one after the blowout and she’s all about it.

The weight loss book that was a big hit last year may have had no impact on the fat man last year. He was fat and happy. This year, he’s under strict oversight of a cardiologist who is dogging him to lose weight. Now, he’s highly interested in what this new book has to say.

Sometimes we’re just not yet ready for a message. Marketers don’t always know when prospects will be receptive to their message…so we have to always be marketing.

There’s the rub. It’s the reason why people will never stop writing weight loss books. 

It’s also the reason why there’s plenty of room for new disruptors into any market, no matter how competitive it may be. The future fat people are being born every day. It’s a market with limitless demand. We don’t know when some of those fat people are going to decide to try to lose weight.

The tire store doesn’t know when your tires are going wear out, or when you’ll suffer a blowout.

The shoe retailer doesn’t know when you’re going to be in the market for a new pair of dress shoes.

The executive coach doesn’t know when a prospect is going to be receptive to hiring a coach.

Style over substance is a real decision-making difference. Sometimes.

You can buy tires in lots of places. You can go to the discount clubs – those warehouse stores. You can go online. You can go to the tire branded retail outlets. You can go to the tire speciality chain stores.

Most of them carry the name brands. Most of them have competitive prices. Go beyond your favorite brand. And price. You’re still likely looking at many choices. Now you’re probably considering proximity. You’re not going to drive far – you need tires so you’re likely on a “donut” spare or you’re driving on tires that may pop at any moment. Many factors to consider. So how do you decide?

If you’re like me, you consider another “convenience” factor – how easy is it to buy? For me, there’s only one option: Discount Tire. They’re friendly, helpful and fast. They don’t try to talk me into things. They always try to help me find the best tire for the budget I’ve got. They’re informative, helpful…and I trust them.

Style determines where I buy tires. Tires!

If style can determine where we buy boring things like tires, imagine the value in other things. Any thing. Any service. Any product.

The substance is important, but don’t think if you build a better mouse trap that your work is complete. Whoever can make a mouse trap “almost” as good as yours, but can gain visibility in the market – and become top of mind – will beat your brains in.

Have good substance.

Have a unique style.

Get the word out.

Focus on your uniqueness.

Be consistent. Be persistent.

Always be marketing.

Build a strong customer base by doing exceptional work.

Randy

 

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