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Episode 142 – The Power Of Dread (And A Yellow Fly Swatter)

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Dread.

It strikes us when we look at our phone to see a person who whips us.

It hits when an email arrives with the subject line, “Past Due.”

Dread can be major, life changing stuff. It can be a very minor daily beating we seem destined to endure.

That’s the power of dread? No. Well, it is a power, but it’s not the power I’m talking about.

I think dread can serve us. It can help us. It can make us better.

Listen to the show and I’ll explain the power of a yellow fly swatter!

We have to do some hard work to let dread work for us. It won’t just happen automatically.

It won’t be easy. But it will be very worthwhile. I promise!

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Vulgarity: The Newest Popularity Building Tool Has A High Price

Profane. Vulgar.

It once meant offensive, but now it seems to be a primary tool for driving up popularity. Actually, there’s nothing new about it. The Internet just makes it seem like it.

Speech has characterized the true nature of people since the beginning of time. The Bible account of creation shows Satan taking the form of a serpent in the Garden of Eden. He utters the first lie, a specific type of vulgarity. Deception. The high price of vulgarity resulted in Adam and Eve disobeying God. They were expelled from the Garden.

Another Bible example is recorded on the evening of the crucifixion of Christ. The apostle Peter is warming himself at a fire among those who are clamoring for Christ to be executed. Repeatedly he’s being pointed out as one of the disciples, but each time he denies even knowing Christ. Finally, as though it would serve to prove his innocence he begins to curse. (Matthew 26:74) Vulgarity served its purpose. I’m sure the folks around that fire figured, “He’s one of us.”

In the late 1950’s and early 1960’s foul mouthed comic Lenny Bruce made headlines by being profane and vulgar. From 1961 to 1964 he was repeatedly arrested for violating obscenity laws. Some have argued that he was a man before his time. I’d argue that he was just a profane man before vulgarity became chic. Today, his act would likely get lost in a sea of stand-up comic acts more vulgar than anything he created. Can you be a standup comic today without vulgarity? (Bill Cosby and Sinbad notwithstanding).

The Parental Advisory warning started in 1990. 2LiveCrew’s record, Banned in the USA, was the first recording to earn the non-removable sticker. In that same year, 1990, the Motion Picture Association Of America instituted the current rating system which escalates from G to PG to PG-13 to R to NC17. We’re so protective of our youth that we won’t allow a 16 year old to view an R rated movie without an adult or parent. They can’t drink alcohol until they’re 21, but we can begin corrupting their mind much sooner.

Video recorders began to hit mainstream America in the mid-70’s. The first big content provider? The porn industry.

The Internet began its march into our lives in the mid-90’s, a full twenty years after most of us had seen our first VCR (video cassette recorder for you young folks). The first big content providers? The porn industry.

Blogging was picking up steam by the late 1990’s. You were as likely to run across some profanity laced filled content as anything, with accompanying photos.

Sure, the vulgarity has become more sophisticated. Well, that’s the term some use. A better term might be the phrase “socially acceptable.”

Browse through a random Flickr account and you’ll likely see countless photos of people flipping off the photographer. Visit just about any YouTube channel and scan the comments. Odds are the first comment will have a bomb front and center.

Remember when you were young? When you heard somebody at school cuss for the first time? Okay, I’m showing my age. I’m guessing today’s kindergartners have heard most every cuss word known to man before they enter the classroom. Many of them have grown up hearing mom and dad talk that way. Innocence doesn’t remain very long. We’re speeding toward vulgarity so our kids can become fluent by the time they hit 3rd grade.

The middle finger is now the title of a “project” that extols the value of F-bombing. No, I won’t link to it, but you can figure it out and see for yourself how debased we’ve become.

And now it has come to this.

Decency is scoffed at, ridiculed and mocked.

Shocking vulgarity does garner attention. No doubt about it. If you’re tempted to join the insanity of vulgarity, resist. Find encouragement knowing that profanity-filled content won’t bring you more honor, respect or trust.

And if there are no children in your life, then take a look at just two of the ones who are part of my life. That’s Jake and his big brother, Max, pictured above. They’re my grandsons. Max is in pre-school. He just turned 5. You don’t know him, but if you were around him would you watch what you said? I’m hoping you’ve got enough decency to answer, “Of course, I would.” (Note: Almost 5 years ago I wrote this post on Max’s site about men who influence boys.)

Vulgarity, indecency, profanity…they all contribute to greater immorality. In our lives. And in our children’s lives.

Moral bankruptcy creeps up on us. Adults, just like the kids who bullied the bus monitor with round after round of vulgarity, find themselves saying and doing things they may have once never imagined. The high price of vulgarity must be paid.

No one’s life is improved by vulgarity or profanity. Everyone’s life is improved by decency. You decide which one you’ll embrace and serve. Little pictures have big ears, but big pictures do, too.

 

 

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Episode 141 – Michael Jordan Was A Great NBA Player, But He Failed In Minor League Baseball

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Look over at that cartoon by the great Jerry Van Amerongen. That’s me starting at that road kill squirrel.

Well, that was me, back around the beginning of 2009 (probably much sooner, actually). I had been in the same industry, doing the same kind of work for going on 37 years. Professionally, I was as dissatisfied as I had ever been, but I was still energetic and ambition. In a few months I would turn 52.

It was time for an encore career.

It was time for what Marc Freeman, the founder of Encore.org calls “the big shift.”

I’d been pondering such things for a long time. I can’t be sure for how long.

By the time Spring rolled around in 2009 it was time.

For the BIG SHIFT.

With one successful career behind me it was daunting to chase success in a new one. It was especially difficult because the new one was undefined. Oh, I had some ideas. And I tried some things. But nothing worked.

Age, maturity and experience have benefits, but they also have a downside.

On one hand I was grounded and stable. I wasn’t one paycheck away from homeless. I was debt free, but I was far from financial independence. That is, I couldn’t just sit back and enjoy my money – because statically, I knew my wife and I would outlive our money. Besides, I wasn’t ready to sit back and enjoy leisure. I don’t think I’ll ever be ready for that. It’s not how I’m wired.

On the other hand, age makes adjusting difficult. And I’m prone to change. Given to embrace it. But there is something to the realization that you have more past than future. That restricts your choices. Practically speaking, older folks tend to approach life in a more reasonable, perhaps less ambitious fashion. Not me.

For me the downside of age, experience and maturity was how I defined myself professionally. When you’ve spent the better part of 4 decades doing something (the same thing) and being something – you tend to feel defined by it. Deep down you realize that your “job” isn’t who you are, but it sure feels that way.

The identity decompression took much longer than I planned. It lasted from the Spring of 2009 through the end of 2011. That’s right. Two and a half years passed with me trying to figure things out. Along the way I was podcasting, but I was working…doing work I really didn’t want to do. Feeling as though I had jumped out of the frying pan into the fire.

2011 ended and more shifting happened.

And now, I have more clarity. I’m sure things will continue to morph, but as the Encore.org tagline says, “Encore careers combine purpose, passion and a paycheck.”

I have starred at the road kill and pondered the very thing Bob is wondering. I’ve been driven by the practical realities of the paycheck. Yes, I’ve sold out my fair share and done things that didn’t fulfill me because the money attached was high enough.

Today, more than ever before in my life, I understand how Michael Jordan felt riding on a minor league bus failing at a new game. Just because you made it in one career doesn’t mean you’ll make it another. It can be very tough work to figure out what you’ll do for an encore.

Life is a story. It’s being written daily by our choices and actions. But first, it starts in our head – wondering whether we shouldn’t do more with our remaining days. Some of us have fewer remaining days than others. We have to get busy.

Thank you for listening. I’ll do better by you in the future!

 

P.S. Maybe it’s fitting that today’s show lacks production elements due to one of the PreSonus FireStudio Project firewire interfaces failing. Lord willing, I’ll send it off, have it repaired and all will be back to normal Inside The Yellow Studio. Well, as normal as things ever are around here.

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Episode 139 – The Power Of Less Wrap Up Show

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Rocky and Rosie, the Westies who guard The Yellow Studio

Let’s wrap up the 6 principles Leo Babauta used in his book, The Power of Less.

They are:

1. Set limitations.
2. Choose the essential.
3. Simplify.
4. Focus.
5. Create habits.
6. Start small.

It’s not a deep, dark dive into each one, but I want to provoke you to ponder. Pondering is good. We don’t do enough of it.

I’ve been doing a significant amount of it lately. In fact, I began earnestly pondering in the late spring of 2009. At first it ebbed and flowed. More ebbing I suspect.

In late 2011 my pondering picked up momentum. It probably had something to do with the advent of a new year. I’m not really sure.

Behind the scenes, right here in The Yellow Studio, I engaged in conversations, dialog, self-examination, notetaking, research, sketching and anything else I could do to find some clarity.

About a month ago I began scouring the bookshelves looking for a book worth re-reading. I do that often.

It was during that scouring that I saw Leo’s book, fetched it from a place where its likely sat for a few years and opened it up.

Serendipitous?

Maybe.

I don’t know.

You judge.

Also mentioned in today’s show is a book by Darren Hardy from Success Magazine, The Compound Effect.

Thank you for listening! Listen closely and you’ll understand why Rocky and Rosie are pictured in today’s show notes.

 

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